When you see a rose bud, a bloomed lotus, a drop of rain on a jasmine flower, a smiling new-born baby, a 2-week-old small puppy, a God’s picture or a cancer survivor with 100% strength, it brings an instant smile on your face and graces you with positivity, isn’t it?

One naturally gets filled up with positivity the moment it comes in contact with those radiating positivity. This is an instant reaction that happens!
Hence, to follow the positive thought pattern:
1.Be in touch with positive, and
2.Become positive.
Or in other words, take in positive and give out positive. Simple!

Here are some tips which may help you get there!

1.Appreciate everyone!
Appreciate your mother for preparing your favourite dish, your father for taking you on a holiday, say thank you to your friend for all his help, congratulate and give a nice little gift to your sister for passing her exams, say ‘thanks’ to waiters and bus conductors for rendering you service… Follow this positive thought pattern and Yahoo, see the wonders! When you share your appreciation with anyone you meet, you instantly get satisfaction and happiness inside, which automatically gets transferred to people outside.

2.Everyone makes mistakes. So let’s learn to accept and forgive them now.If any person makes a mistake, don’t get angry. Instead look at the person’s positive qualities. You can even help the person in whatever way you can. Remember, we ourselves have made so many mistakes in our life. And our parents, friends, relatives, colleagues have forgiven us so easily. So, let’s follow this positive thought pattern and learn to accept and forgive people in life. You can even pray for the person so that he/she comes out of the mistake.

3.Show ‘No Entry’ board to our ‘Tit for Tat’ attitude.
Our negativity is because of our ‘wrong intellect.’ Furthermore, its nature is such that it rapidly multiplies and soon becomes a big obstacle. People then begin to send negative vibes to us; and we in turn send many such vibes back to them. If our friend tells us “You are a lazy bone”, we would tell him back, “You are a sick paranoid person” What did we gain out of it? This is a ‘Tit for Tat’ cycle, which will never end. Positivity alone can end this cycle. Therefore, decide to follow the positive thought pattern henceforth. Do not say anything hurtful or negative to anyone. Instead, appreciate their good qualities, whenever possible. This brings inner peace and binds good karmas whereas negativity will bind bad karmas, which you will have to bear for next life!

4.Allow your home to remain a beautiful garden.
Every home has unique and different personalities come together. These personalities must knit with each other in a peaceful manner, for all belong to ONE FAMILY! One may have to adjust and let go off certain things. But most important is to feel positive about the different natures. In a beautiful garden there are all sorts of plants and flowers - some are roses, some daffodils, some hibiscus, some cactuses. They all live together in a peaceful manner, don’t they? A rose has tiny thorns. If you complain about the thorns, who will be at loss? You only. However, if you learn how to pick the rose by avoiding the thorns then you win! Hence, always follow the positive thought pattern - Do not let the rose go because of the thorns and appreciate the thorns as well!

5.Read a positive book.
Negativity is very contagious. If negativity surrounds you, you too may become negative very soon. So, to break this cycle, show courage and disconnect from the negative surrounding. Make a firm resolve that ‘No more sorrow, grief, resentment, negativity or sadness in my life!’ Adopt positive thinking instead! For this, start reading positive books, stories, and visit websites having positive resources. One of such website that I know of is https://www.dadabhagwan.org this has free eBooks, videos, and energizing quotes.

Here are a couple of them: “Any good thing will be ruined by talking negatively about it; similarly bad thing will improve by speaking positive about it.” “No one should be hurt in the slightest’ - such should be one’s egoism. That is a ‘positive’ ego.” - Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan

6.See noble and Be noble:
When you get to see some noble character, who for the sake of other’s happiness, happily gives away his own belongings to others without any hesitation, seeing such nobility, you too, without any effort, automatically begin to follow such positive thought pattern. So, watch out for the nobility in others and you will soon find yourself on the path to positivity.

7.Count what you have!
Positivity brings peace while negativity brings only suffering. This is the reason why Lord preaches to keep our eyes on what we have, rather than bring tears in eyes thinking of what we don’t have. By adopting this positive thought pattern, you can turn every situation into a positive one.

8.Practice patience and endurance
Read stories of how great saints displayed extraordinary patience and endurance, and ultimately won over the negative forces with their love and positivity. These true stories inspire us to follow the same positive thought pattern and rise upwards in our development.

9.While you strive to maintain smooth interactions outside, keep your heart clean and positive inside
Many a times, we choose not to speak negative as we do not want to confront or fight with the other person. But inside, our thought pattern is highly negative. We keep getting irritated and also develop abhorrence for that person. This is not done! All your external efforts go down the drain when your internal vibrations are not the same. Hence, inculcate a pure inner intent that, “I do not want to have any conflict with the other person, not even in my thoughts. Whatever he / she says is perfectly acceptable to me, from within as well.” Have a firm determination that “I want to follow positive thought pattern only.”

10.Do you know really who are you?
You say “I am Govardhan (the reader may insert his own name here)”. But just think about it – Are you Govardhan or your name is Govardhan? You say, “My name is Govardhan.” Who are you then?
You are really a Pure Soul. This is the ultimate positive in this world. Owing to our ignorance of the Self, we do not realize this fact. It is only when, with the grace of Gnani Purush, we attain Self-Realization, we arrive at this ultimate positive of “I am a Pure Soul.” To know more, I highly recommend you to visit https://www.dadabhagwan.org.

Please also visit https://www.dadabhagwan.org/path-to-happiness/self-help/positive-thinking/

Author's Bio: 

Ambalal M. Patel was a civil contractor by profession. In June 1958, spontaneous Self-Realization occurred within Ambalal M. Patel. From this point on, Ambalal became a Gnani Purush, and the Lord that manifest within him became known as Dada Bhagwan. A Gnani Purush is One who has realized the Self and is able help others do the same. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan used to go from town to town and country-to-country to give satsang (spiritual discourse) and impart the knowledge of the Self, as well as knowledge of harmonious worldly interactions to everyone who came to meet him. This spiritual science, known as Akram Vignan, is the step-less path to Self-realization.