Break ups are, to put it mildly,
a pain in the tush.
The causes of splitting up vary,
but whatever the cause,
it is quite common for one person
to want to get back together.

Let's assume that you are reading this
because you're a guy,
and you have already tried to work things out.
However, she brushed you off
and now you're asking yourself,
"how can I get my ex girlfriend back when she needs space?"

First, you need to accept the fact that she needs space.
Emotions can get chaotic after a break up,
and you both need some space
so you can get things back under control.
Perhaps you have already reached that point,
but your ex girlfriend hasn't.

On the other hand,
maybe you haven't calmed down
all that much and you are reacting too quickly.
If this is the case, then the best thing to do is nothing.
Just wait for a while
and give yourself a chance to manage your feelings.

"Hold on," I can hear some of you asking,
"what if she is only saying she needs space
so she can get rid of me?"
That's a fair question,
and there may not be an easy answer.

However, if you started trying to get back together
the day after you broke up,
then there's a good chance
she is telling the truth.

On the other hand,
if you have seen her hanging out with a new guy,
and it's been several weeks,
then there's a possibility
she's using the need for space as an excuse.

It may not be easy,
but do your best to use logic
when trying to determine if she's making excuses,
or if she really needs the space.

If she is only making excuses,
then you have nothing to lose;
you may as well have a heart-to-heart talk now
and see if there is any hope for saving your relationship.

Most relationships can be saved,
but if it just isn't meant to be,
then it's best to know
that as soon as possible
so you can start to move on with your own life.

However, if she is not making excuses,
and just needs some space for a while,
then you should give it to her.
The tricky part is figuring how much space
and how long you should wait before trying again.

You should know your ex girlfriend better than anybody else,
so you will have to use your better judgment.
It is even possible
that she will be the one to contact you first,
but only if you give her enough time
and space to sort things out on her own.

There is another thing to consider
when asking "how can I get my ex girlfriend back when she needs space"
and that is that
you don't want to appear too desperate.

If you come on too strong
she will feel smothered,
and that will only work against you.
So, play it smart and do things right.

Author's Bio: 

Hello there, my name is Treena (Smiley) Murphy
I am a part time blogger, writer, and internet marketer.
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