In life, we all come across different situations. When we have our loved ones to care for us, have a good job to look forward to, and have enough money and comforts, we feel that life is beautiful. During such good and happy times, we think we are managing our life so well and hence we have all the happiness in life. But when life gets rough, when the very people who respected us previously seem to ignore or insult us, when we happen to face failure and loss wherever we go and in whatever we do, we feel that we do not have anything in life worth living for. Seeing those who supported us during our good times not helping us anymore, we tend to sink into negativity, and thus make our life complicated.

Because of lack of right understanding, we get stuck in situations we are given to experience in life
When life is smooth and enjoyable, we tend to take all the credit for it, and when life gets rough, we point at others, being the reason for our suffering. This is not right. Also, we do not realize that when we see the faults of others, our misery increases even more. Nevertheless, blaming and cursing one’s own self for not being able to manage things correctly and properly would throw us into another pit, that of self-negativity; and this also would only increase our miseries multi-fold.

The right way to cope with life getting rough is to adopt and apply the right understanding in life.
When everything goes as per our wish, who is responsible for this favorable position? And when things start turning rough, who is responsible for these unfavorable situations?
It is our own merit and demerit karmas that are responsible for whatever good and bad happens in life. With this understanding, when we learn to accept the situations in life without any complaints, we feel inner tranquility.

The people involved during these situations are only instrumental in giving us the effect of our karmas.
For example, your boss may insult you before your colleagues in a meeting. You may feel quite hurt by the insult and hence may get a lot of negative thoughts also about your boss. But the right understanding to be applied here is that, ‘It was my demerit karma of getting insulted that came into fruition right now, and therefore the boss happened to insult me. He is just an instrument through which Nature delivered to me the result of my karma.’

To test the validity of this natural law, try requesting your boss to insult you once again exactly the way he did earlier. Your boss will immediately say, “Don’t I have any other work to do?”

Therefore, Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan, the Enlightened being, says:
“The world is your own projection. The whole world is nothing but the principle of karma. The existence of bondage lies entirely on you, you are responsible for it. Everything is your own projection. You are responsible even for the formation of your body. Everything you encounter is your own design; nobody else is responsible for it. For endless lives, you have been responsible, wholly and solely.”
So whether life is smooth or it gets rough, we must always remember that nobody can create any situation; Everything just happens!

Say the postman comes and gives us a letter. The letter may have good news or bad news. If it is good news, we do not hold the postman responsible, and if it is bad news, we do not curse him either, because the postman has nothing to do with our letter, he is just instrumental in giving us our letter.

When we understand that every person in our life, whether one gives us happiness or sorrow, is merely instrumental in giving us the effect of our own karmas, we will be able to cope with every situation in life with great ease and comfort.

Accept the past, do not worry about the future, and living in the present, put in best positive efforts
If we have written an exam and are waiting for the results, what should we do to get better marks? Without worrying, we should accept the present marks we got in the exam we’d already written in the past. And if our marks are not good (when life gets rough), we must put in our best efforts now for the next exam. But rather, if we keep blaming people around us or even ourselves, we cannot prepare well even for the next exam, right?

So, the first step is to accept the result without placing the blame on anyone and the next step is to live in the present and put in our best positive efforts for new results. We can keep a watch on what opportunities knock on our door. We can take the help of our mentors and well-wishers to choose the best step in whatever field we want to progress. We can look for practical solutions in various ways, like getting training to improve our skills.
It is also essential to keep our body and mind healthy. We can do exercises, practice yoga, and interact with people around us. Let us live in the present and not worry about the future. When our present is the best, our future will automatically be the best.

Attain Self-realization
When we realize our real Self, we know that all good and bad is happening to John (please insert your name here), and not with us. Hence, we are able to remain separate from everything and constantly remain in the all-powerful Soul's awareness.

So why not attain Self-realization from the living Gnani (the Enlightened One), and happily stay free and equanimous in both, the good and bad, that may happen in our life?

To know more: https://www.dadabhagwan.org/self-realization/

Author's Bio: 

Ambalal M. Patel was a civil contractor by profession. In June 1958, spontaneous Self-Realization occurred within Ambalal M. Patel. From this point on, Ambalal became a Gnani Purush, and the Lord that manifest within him became known as Dada Bhagwan. A Gnani Purush is One who has realized the Self and is able help others do the same. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan used to go from town to town and country-to-country to give satsang (spiritual discourse) and impart the knowledge of the Self, as well as knowledge of harmonious worldly interactions to everyone who came to meet him. This spiritual science, known as Akram Vignan, is the step-less path to Self-realization.