Depending on how things go in a marriage, sex can be one of the nicest or most frustrating things. It is often difficult to find a balance between jobs, children, obligations, hobbies and finding work at home. If you try to put sex somewhere in between, it will often fade into the background. You are too tired or too busy. If that takes too long, as a couple you will notice that you no longer feel each other as well as before. There is less contact and more frustration.

We are convinced that a healthy sex life is the means to stay involved with each other. It is also important to work on it; keep the romance high in your marriage. You will never "find time" for intimacy in your marriage; you have to 'make time'. It must be a priority.

If you wonder how you know if you are on the right track, here are 9 characteristics of a healthy sexual relationship in a marriage.

  • You have no difficulty in telling what you want. Communication is one of the keys to a healthy sexual relationship.
  • You are also part of each other's lives outside the bedroom. Good sex starts early in the morning outside the bedroom, talking together, keeping in touch, wishing good morning, a sweet note, praying together etc.
  • You have no difficulty in telling what you like and don't like. By being honest about that, you build trust and vulnerability.
  • You are open change if necessary. Will your sex life become a routine? Then it's time to do it completely differently: Different timing, place, position. Remember, age doesn't matter. No matter either you're 22 or 50+, you can keep your relationship stronger with healthy sex life.
  • You are willing to try something new. There are so many good books about sex and intimacy. Couples who keep learning always benefit from this.
  • You are both satisfied with the number of times you have sex. According to statistics, we have sex on average 2-3 times a week. We say forget the statistics and have as much sex as you want and where you feel comfortable with. Some will find 2 to 3 times a week too much. Others think that is hardly enough. It is important that you are both satisfied with it and find out what works for you. Don't let your marriage be shaped by statistics or by comparing it with others. Even you can consult with the men's health specialist at to discuss your sex life and troubles.
  • You are both willing to initiate sex. It is nice for both men and women if they both want to take the initiative. Nobody likes to always have to ask for it.
  • You understand that sex defines an important part of your relationship. You do not repair a bad marriage with sex, but a good marriage suffers damage without sex.
  • Neither of you is selfish, you want to meet the sexual desires of the other. If you want the sex in your marriage to get bad, make sure it's only about you. It is only a blessing for your marriage when mutual needs are met.
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Misty Jhones