How Does A Waitress Deal With Rude People?

A few weeks ago we wrote a blog called "Walking Your Talk: How Do You Treat a Waitress?" We had a great response and so this time we thought we would look at the same issue from the other side: How do we deal with people who are rude? There is no doubt that waitresses can get the worst of it. On a daily basis they have to deal with people who are inconsiderate, uncivil, and disrespectful. As Deb remembers: When I was much younger I was a waitress in a Gentleman's Club in Mayfair, London, when one man was particularly rude, arrogant and discourteous. I got so angry I 'accidentally' dropped his plate of food all over him. I lost the job but momentarily felt avenged! rnWhether a waitress or not, we all meet rude behavior at different times, such as when we are driving and the person who cuts in front of us gives us the finger, or in crowded subways with people shoving and grabbing for a seat, or people line-jumping in front of us. Ed is a skier and on a crowded ski slope people can be rude and even dangerous when they suddenly dart out in front as you are cruising downhill. rnEd goes to the gym daily. This morning there was a man in the swimming pool wearing ear-plugs, flippers, goggles and a snorkel while swimming the butterfly stroke noisily and wildly across two lanes. When he was coming towards me I got his attention and asked if he would let me pass as he was taking up two lanes. He got really indignant and rude. I tried to explain the situation from my perspective but he didn't want to know. I went into the steam room and began to do a simple meditation, taking the man into my heart. But first I had to acknowledge what a rude dude he was and that I really wanted to dunk his head under the water! rnRudeness is defined as: lacking delicacy or refinement; coarse; of untaught manners; uncivil; ignorant; lacking chasteness or elegance. rnAll of which makes it sound like a voice of the ego, a voice of the selfish, offensive and impolite part of human nature--which, when attacked, pops up like a monster needing to retaliate. We all have this potential, just that some of us give it more volume than others. rnSo how do we deal with rudeness? The waitress gets even by pinching their asses! But how do we not let it upset us, or make us want to be rude in return? Continue reading on The Huffington Post