A common question most people who are recovering from a breakup is “how long to get over a breakup?” They are recovering from the end of their relationship and they are having a hard time coping with it.

If you and your ex had a bad breakup and you’re also wondering “how long to get over a breakup,” then there’s no real answer to that. It could take days, weeks, or even months. Getting over a breakup doesn’t just happen overnight. You can’t go to sleep and wake up feeling refreshed and ready to take on the world.

Some people would say that it would take half the time that your relationship lasted. For instance, if your relationship lasted for 3 years, then it will take you about 1 and a half years to get over the breakup.

But there’s no way of really knowing. There’s no formula or mathematical solution that will give you an accurate answer. Breakups are not all the same and there are other things you need to consider such as:

• Experience

This refers to the amount of time that’s been invested in the relationship or if this is your first breakup. If it is, then it may linger longer and it may be more painful.

• Self confidence

Your confidence, or lack of it, can help or hinder the recovery process. Your self-esteem could be damaged after a breakup and if you don’t find ways to regain it, then you will continue to feel sorry for yourself. On the other hand, if you are able to stay positive, then you’ll be confident enough to tell yourself that you’ll get through this.

• Support system

Some people don’t have a great support system. If you are able to talk to your friends about the breakup then you’re lucky. There are others who have not-so-supportive family and friends and they feel like they can’t talk to anyone.

• Personality

Different people have different personalities. Others find it easier to cope and adapt and they are able to easily move on.

• Emotionally or physically struggling

People who are struggling physically or emotionally or other things will find it more difficult to move on. If they have disorders or are facing other problems in their life, then they’ll have a harder time getting over a breakup.

• The relationship itself

The nature of the relationship also plays an important role in getting over a breakup. If it was a long term and serious relationship, then moving on will be very difficult and the pain will linger longer.


If you and your ex were friends before you were in a relationship, then will you still be friends? There’s a good chance you have mutual friends so you may bump into each other. It will be harder to bounce back if you keep seeing your ex because all the memories will come flooding back.

• Your ability to let go

Some people hold on too tightly after a breakup. If you really want to move on, first you need to let go of your ex. Holding on to memories and false hopes of reconciliation will only make the healing process a lot longer.

As you can see, there’s no easy answer to the question “how long to get over a breakup?” There are variations you need to consider and breakups are different to each person. Some are able to bounce back quickly while others are not very good when it comes to letting go.

Author's Bio: 

Ashley Kay is a dating and relationship expert who runs a popular free online newsletter that helps women and men have the relationship they want, minus the heartache and drama. Click here to go to her website.