One night, after dinner with a dear friend and her husband, she said, Let`s tell stories. Since she is an herbalist and seems to me a magician when it comes to anything connected with mother nature, I was shocked to hear what a terrible cook she was when they got married.

Coming from a family of good cooks, he really valued good food and did not want to prepare it.

So, they established a contest. He was looking for the most improved cook in their county and declared a $10,000 prize. Over the next year or 2, he judged the food and sure enough, she won, and he paid up.

It was worth it, he said. Later she joked that she also paid him in sex! Both of them seemed quite happy with this arrangement, not grasping out of need or controlling out of fear, but simply sharing what they each had to share and receiving in turn.

Another friend of mine has a business using her creative gifts to support the Divine feminine, and her husband is constantly posting on Facebook about all her successes. Beyond that, he often posts pictures and stories of
practical things he does to support her business.

A client of mine had a breakthrough with her boyfriend. In the past few weeks since our previous session, she`d decided to claim her power in relationship with her boyfriend. This was not about power over him but instead about honoring herself and focusing on having a great life, rather than bending over backwards and then getting mad at him.

Suddenly, he changed to support her more, and she said she felt like she had him on a leash. I said something like, Yes, you do. Now the trick is to use your power with love, for the good of all. This is why most spiritual traditions teach ethics first!

The power of the feminine is unstoppable. Just imagine the amount of energy it takes to make a baby and we all have it!

Two areas the feminine excels in are the realms of emotion and energy. The masculine may give direction or structure but the feminine enlivens it with emotion and energy. This is what`s so attractive and powerful, but perhaps not as tangible.

Over history this feminine strength has been understood, and thus deeply feared and controlled. At the same time, due to the conflict between valuing and fearing it, it has been used rather than openly acknowledged.

All of this is changing now, and we can ride the new wave if we know how. The first step is to realize the power of our emotions and energy.

Daily I go out and overhear people complaining, venting and bonding over misery. While I believe it`s important to feel our feelings, I see that those who complain as a habit inevitably find they have more and more to complain about.

If you ever try affirmations you may notice they work when you feel them deeply, but not when you affirm you something you find boring. I`m totally domestic so I had an easy time manifesting a great house– which friends found miraculous, but when it comes to money for car repairs, forget it!

No matter what you say or think you want, the Universe responds to your energetic broadcast. So, if you complain– and particularly if most everyone you`ve ever known complains as a means of connecting– you might deeply, unconsciously feel a need to complain as a matter of survival. Then the Universe responds and gives you problems- ugg!

This power in energy is part of the power of an intuitive reading or healing. I often meet clients with very articulate lists of questions or desires who need help shifting the toxic, hidden energies in their subconscious. Then, seemingly out of nowhere things manifest!

So how do you feel your true feelings yet refrain from complaining? Time and time again I see people creating (and convincing themselves they are victim to) drama after drama just so they can feel a (usually long-repressed) feeling and be free of it.

The trick is to actually fully feel, which may seem like a scary black hole but in truth often frees us from the feeling in a very short time. In doing so we can avoid years or lifetimes of repeated dramas due to feelings repressed.

Our culture has agreed to repress feelings due to their power, but again the era of that is ending. And here is one extra bonus in doing this…

The most powerful feeling is not dissatisfaction, anger, fear, or anything else except… LOVE. So one loving thought will make up for a thousand complaints.

Ahhhh. None of us are perfect. But when we choose love, the Universe chooses us.

This is why one woman mastered cooking and sex and was supported for it. Another started a business and was supported for it. Another learned self-care in relationship and was supported for it.

What do you love, and what would you love to share? I dare you to offer it up and see how the Universe responds.

Author's Bio: 

Ann O'Brien is an intuitive living teacher offering spiritual readings, energy healing and education to help you realize your spiritual power, radiant health and ecstatic relationships. Working with thousands of clients and students worldwide for over a decade, Ann brings the mystical down to earth and makes it practical, fun, accessible and empowering. She is the creator of the program, "Jump Start Your Intuition: Simple Daily Meditation Tips to Increase Wealth, Improve Health & Give You Peace of Mind" along with her in-depth Intuitive Training Program. For more information please visit