Bars are some of the best environments to pick up women. Of course, meeting women begins with knowing how to make a confident approach and "open" her in a clever way. You need to stand out and make yourself more noticeable than other guys. (My book "Mack Tactics" contains an entire chapter on approach tactics, and gives you clever & wickedly effective openers to use in virtually any situation.).
With that said, here are some tips on
how to approach girls at bars:
1. Don't leave home until you're feeling totally confident about your appearance. You don't have to be an Adonis to get girls' attention, but you still need to look presentable. One of the "Ten Mack Commandments" in the Mack Tactics book says that "The First 60 Seconds Are Everything," and this means your appearance must be on point -- because the girl you approach will immediately evaluate it. Wear nice clothes, brush your teeth, comb your hair, etc. Also, your scent should be attractive; this means get rid of the cheap cologne and start wearing the good stuff (I like Calvin Klein and Bulgari, personally)..
2. You need to act confident if you want to be noticed. If you are naturally a shy, nervous guy, you'll need to fake this confidence until you start achieving some success (which is how you develop REAL confidence with women). Body language is extremely important; don't slouch, and keep your head held high. Make eye contact with women. Don't only try to interact with the hot girls you want to hook up with; start friendly interactions with other women as you "warm up" and get a feel for the crowd. Also keep in mind that most of the other guys in the bar are just as nervous as you -- if not more so -- when it comes to approaching girls and trying to start a conversation. Even if you're faking a good deal of your confidence at this point, you've going to have more success picking up girls than the guys who can't get a handle on their nervousness.
3. You're going to have to learn
how to approach women if you're going to successfully pick up girls when you go out. Unless you're lucky and they approach you first, you are going to have to overcome your shyness and go up to them. Don't only try to target women who are alone; usually, women go out in groups, and approaching groups of women is not big deal when you've got some solid techniques. If she's alone, go up to her, smile, and use one of the openers I explain the "Mack Tactics" book. If she doesn't seem interested, don't bug her. Don't worry about being turned down. This is an important attitude to take when you're out to pick up girls at bars. And when approaching girls who are in a group, be equally charming to all of them. Don't make it obvious which girl in the group is your target.
4. Next, when you approach a girl and start a conversation your tone of voice -- and the topics you discuss -- should be positive. She should associate you with FUN and POSITIVITY, not negativity or boring/depressing topics (such as talking to her about your exes, breakups, etc. Remember, she didn't spend two hours earlier tonight doing her hair and makeup, and selecting her outfit, so that she could out to a bar and be be bored and depressed. She came here tonight to have fun. If you can provide her with that, she'll want to hang out with you.
5. Never be loud, aggressive or hostile towards other guys when you're out to pick up girls. It's cool to enjoy yourself and be energetic, but don't be the "spaz" who gets on people's nerves (or even worse, the drunk guy who can't handle his alcohol). Don't drink anymore alcohol than you can handle. But there is often a fine line between "pleasantly buzzed" and "hammered," and women don't feel comfortable being hit on by guys who seem to be drunk and possibly out of control.
6. Observe and pay attention to the environment at all times. Listen to what girls say in bars and pay attention to everything that they do. In order to pick up girls at bars, you should observe them for a few minutes before approaching them. I came up with some of my best conversational material by listening in on other conversations! I've heard guys use clever openers which I then borrowed, and I've also seen guys make a ton of MISTAKES which I then know to avoid making myself.. It's better to plan your moves carefully before approaching a woman than to go right up to her as soon as you see her. Becoming a master at picking up girls requires patience, discipline, and most of all PRACTICE.
The next time you go out to have some fun and pick up girls, keep these principles in mind. Now, if you're ready to learn the EXACT openers that I use to "break the ice" with hot girls and start conversations, click here and download this free guide:
Mack Tactics Free Book - How To Approach Beautiful Girls