How to develop your kids confidence

A really young child relies totally on it's mother for survival but as they grow into toddlers and beyond they are increasingly pulled into the outside world. As they grow the need for mother's protection diminshes but they are still seeking some form of guide. In most societies this was historically the father's role.

This initial separation phase is critical in developing a child's belief that they can be safe and live in the outside world. People for whom this transition didn't go well, can develop a nagging fear of the unknown, or of not really being able to place trust in others. They can also have problems with not feeling "whole" unless they belong.

In this article, I'm arguing that this is where father's traditonal role is so undervalued - but, it doesn't need to be dad performing this role - a trusted adult will work just as well, or mom if she's prepared to let her hair down a little and let her mountain girl out.

So what's the best way to help your kids develop the skills and confidence to claim their rightful place in the world?

Well Baden-Powell founded the Boy Scouts in England way back in 1907 to develop the leadership skills of young boys - well the world's changed and women are doing it for themselves too- so developing those skills is just as vital for girls nowadays.

Organised groups can play a part, but too many kids are getting big perching in the their bedroom playing computer games.

The campground provides the perfect playgound if you're preapred to let them get a little dirty. Campcraft can help teamworking skills and their self-reliance. You'll find as you play and learn together you'll strengthen thse family bonds too :o)

So what's the easiest way to get started?

Well, if you're not an seasoned camper, then I'd suggest that you begin small and build up from there, because a couple of happy camps early on will set them up for life. Select a local campground and a weekend with good weather for you kids's first camp. It's another good idea to pack some of their favorite games and food because you while it's still a stretch for them having familiar things around will help them feel comfortable. Even better let them take some buddies along.

You could probably get by without buying much at all for your first trip - you can borrow from a buddy or pull out that old gear from the back of the garage. If you really don't have the kit, see if you can hire it, or go on a vacation run by someone else who provides the kit. there is always a way.

Beyond your first few camps you might like to find a local expert who can teach you and the kids the old art of fire lighting, shelter building and camp food. They kids will love it and they'll be learning to respect and work in harmony with nature. Chances are they won't even notice their increasing self-confidence - but I'm sure you'll have fun noticing them grow into high value young sons or daughters.

Enjoy yourself, and happy trials ;o)

Dave.