Imagine how your life might be if you knew how to finally nstop the stress in relationships that saps your strength, ndrains your energy and ruins your productivity!
Until you have released the need for judgment, you willnalways have it reflected back to you in your relationships.nThis is one of the main causes of stress. All too often wenassume that we know what others mean by what they say or donwithout bothering to gain a clear understanding of what'snreally going on. This inevitably leads to a breakdown inncommunication and conflict.
The biggest secret to stress free relationships is to masternthe skill of being agreeable! nIf you think about it just for a moment this makes a lot ofnsense. How did you feel the last time someone disagreed withnwhat you though, said or did? Did you thank them, give themna big hug and then ask for more disapproval? Probably not!nThe bottom line is that people don't like being disagreednwith. This is what leads to arguments and conflict.
You have a choice every time you relate with another person.nYou can either be agreeable in nature and in communicationnor you can be disagreeable. The first choice will causenpeople to be more relaxed and enjoy your company. The secondncreates stress and frustration.
It costs nothing to agree with someone else's point of viewneven if you think it's ridiculous. Who are we to judge hownanother person views their life and the world around them.nConflict always arises from disagreement's which then leadsnto power struggles. This means that either one or allnparties are trying to prove that they are right and someonenelse is wrong. This is a no win scenario because if onenperson is made wrong, then the outcome is tension andnresentment.
So what do you do if you disagree with what someone isnsaying? Ask if it's ok to share your opinion. If the answernis no, then to keep your relationships stress free keep yournmouth shut. Changes topics if you need to or go do somethingnfun together but let it go and move on.
The next secret to stress free relationships is to masternthe skill of understanding.nThe key here is to learn to be a good listener. Can younremember a time recently when you were talking with someonenand they either interrupted you before you finished talkingnand started talking about themselves or completely ignorednwhat you said and talked about something totally unrelated?nI know that's happened to me thousands of times. Well guessnwhat, if you didn't like it I can guarantee you that othersnwon't like it if you do it to them.
By listening attentively to what others say and notninterrupting you will prevent the possibility of causingnstress and tension in your relationships because the peoplenyou are communicating with will feel seen and heard. Thisnbuilds trust and respect which are two of the most importantningredients of a happy, healthy and productive relationship.nnnHere are 4 keys to master the skill of understanding:n1. Don't interrupt unless you have something urgent tonattend to. Then excuse yourself politely and make a time tonmeet with them that you can give your undivided attention.n2. Look them in the eye and keep your
body language openn3. Only ask questions that are relevant to the topic. Thisnlets the person who is talking know that you are reallynlistening to them.n4. Never assume you know what someone means, always ask fornclarity before sharing you're opinion. Don't be afraid tonkeep asking questions until you are 100% sure about what isnbeing said.
The only time to try and get others to understand you isnafter you have understood them. Then they are more receptivento what you have to say. This skill is one of the mostnimportant in building good bonds between people that arenstress free. There is nothing more powerful than lettingnothers know that they matter.
Happy, healthy and stress free relationships are nonaccident. They are skillfully developed over time by peoplenwho care about people. These secrets will only work if younapply them. The more you apply them, the less stress you'llnhave in relationships. I know this for a fact because theynhave been working for me for more than 15 years.
To Your Great Life and Health