How does one discover their true purpose in life?

How do you know that you even have a purpose?

How do you know you’re not just BS-ing yourself?

Of course you have a purpose. You’ve just been conditioned to ignore the internal screaming occurring within yourself, and then label that as being “normal”.

We’re taught to label emotional states like complacency, apathy, and depression as “normal”. That’s just the way life is, kids. Sorry you can’t cope with how boring and unfulfilling it is to be a human consumer in the 21st century. Go play with your digital toys or something!

But what if you want to unveil your purpose once and for all?

What if you want to take a peak behind the curtain that is the very social conditioning keeping you separated from your truth?

Doing so will avail you of immense personal power, focus, drive, and clarity. These tools are very useful for people who are sick of the default program of society, and wish to make their own lives on their own terms.

The first step is to begin the process of consciously disassociating your thinking with disempowering thoughts. This is easier said than done, of course; but with time you will become proficient in this practice.

This is just a warm up, however. It’s similar to stretching before the gym. The real magic lies in what happens next:

How to Figure Out Your Life Purpose in 10 Minutes

A few quick pointers before we get started:

The more honest you are, the better your results are going to be here.

You gain nothing by looking for answers, finding a worthy exercise to help you sort out those answers, and then lying to yourself to prevent temporary emotional discomfort.

That’s exactly why you are where you are if you’re reading this article! Take that in stride and use it to your advantage here!

Ok, here we go:

1. Grab a blank piece of paper and/or open up your favorite word processor.

2. At the top of the page, write “My Purpose Is…”

3. Begin writing down answers as they arrive. Any and all answers. Do not resist ANYTHING here. This is imperative! You need to write down everything that comes to mind. This is the entire reason for this exercise; it will free up the mental RAM needed for clear thinking (for once)!

4. Repeat step 3 until the answer which makes you begin to cry appears.

Congratulations…you’ve just realized your purpose.

Clarity is The Secret

That’s it and that’s all.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a lawyer, cell phone salesman, or CEO.

This exercise will work for you if you keep at it.

For some people, they’ll keep going and going well over 10, 15, even 30 minutes. This is highly suggested. You might find yourself cycling through 100 or more answers before anything remotely interesting comes up. It might take you a thousand or more. The numbers and time spent are not the point; articulating your mind and clearing out the garbage which presently fills it is the point!

To some this exercise will make perfect sense, and be exactly what they needed.

To others, it will be a stupid exercise that showed them nothing.

If you need a little more correlation on this process, check out my complimentary article Why Purpose is Imperative to Happiness.

Again, 10 minutes is just a suggestion. That’s the minimal amount of time it will take you to start getting a mental flow going in the right direction. Your mind needs to warm up just like any other muscle. Do this for an hour, and your clarity will be much higher than if you stop at the 10 minute mark.

Now, for some, there may come a point where you’re just sitting there listing things, and nothing’s coming up. You’ll feel tempted to say “screw this”, and go do something else instead. This is completely normal and is NOT to be resisted. If you feel like getting up, that simply means you’re not ready to face yourself yet. While this might sound like a bad thing, it’s actually still a HUGE step in the right direction.

The reason this is a step in the right direction is because even though you reached a temporary personal limit, you committed to pushing yourself to try this exercise. You dove in. Even though you didn’t complete it, you took on a daunting new self-growth exercise and ran with it until it pushed you too far.

Congratulations my friend, you’re growing as a human being.

Some answers might come close to making you cry, such as by providing a small surge or emotional response. Hang on to those answers if you can; highlight them, use an asterisk to mark them, whatever. You can still use and incorporate that information later on!

If you truly feel you don’t have a purpose (or that humans in general have no purpose), then start with “I don’t have a purpose” at the top of the sheet and go from there. I’m serious. You’ll be surprised at how your subconscious mind could care less what your conscious mind chooses for an ideology. It’s going to unload the universe onto your hard disk (brain) whether you like it or not.

The more you simply accept this, the more you can work with it and use it to your advantage rather than your detriment.

The less you resist this, the more you’re going to get out of it. Most people are stuck because their entire experience is based on resisting what the truth of reality is trying to show them.

Knowing your purpose makes it a hell of a lot easier to not only move through resistance, but also discern which types of things are actually obstacles, and which are all smoke and no fire.


This exercise is a fast and simple way to begin articulating your own destiny as an individual, empowered human being.

Making the list and allowing your emotional intelligence to guide you is the easy part.

The real challenge comes in consciously committing to living by your purpose, and refusing to die with it in you. I will argue that this is what your true, over-hanging purpose is; to figure out your purpose, and then live it!

If you’re having trouble with this exercise, want more clarity, need a little more guidance, or simply have something to share on the topic – email me at

What are you waiting for? Get that list going NOW! :)

Author's Bio: 

Jason Demakis is a psychology & philosophy-based personal development writer, certified personal fitness trainer, and nutritional consultant. With a focus on prioritizing conscious decision making and behavior, Jason strives to invigorate, inspire, and empower individuals to question their conditioning, and begin living in conscious pursuit of their true goals and values.

His writing aims to demystify the divide between New Age disinformation and true personal development facts, and help people distinguish true empowerment from spiritual sabotage. Find more of his work via his website: