In a world where people are still being forced into a closet and afraid to be who they are, finding fellow LGBT people can be a nightmare, let alone someone from the LGBT community that is willing to date you. Here are some tips on how to find a fellow queer to spark a relationship with.

Dating Websites and Apps:

Online is where most LGBT people can be proud of who they are, so many people flock to the internet when it comes to finding a queer partner.

Dating apps are excellent, purely designed to help you find the right partner. For the best results, remember to be honest about your hobbies and interests, and you’ll be sure to find someone who is right for you. Also, don’t be afraid to post yourself on multiple sites. For a fast find, this is an excellent place to start. There are hundreds of dating websites and apps, but for a list of online LGBT dating resources, visit

When it comes to using dating apps, remember to stay safe. Don’t meet anyone in a place that feels uncomfortable, and trust your gut when the siren in your brain start.

Social Media

If dating apps and websites aren’t your thing, Tumblr and similar websites with a large LGBT following have also had a lot of success. When it comes to websites like Tumblr, you can often find pages and blogs dedicated to helping people find each other, for example

Design your page or blog so that others can tell that you’re interested in talking to people, as well as some honest essentials, such as your sexual and gender identity and what who you are looking for. Follow queer blogs or pages, and start conversations by sharing or commenting their posts. Remember that this doesn’t have to be done on a public account, but you can always make a separate profile for this purpose under a different name. This is great for people that don’t want to come out yet.

Community Spaces and Clubs:

The internet is a great place for finding people, but often your perfect match will be someone countries away from you. If long distance is a no-go for you, the best way to find a partner is to get out there and socialise.

Even in small towns, there will often be some form of queer space. Google for LGBT groups in your area, and try to make a gathering. You may not immediately find someone, but if you let them know you’re looking for someone, the people you meet are often more than happy to play match maker with you and their friends.

If LGBT groups aren’t an option, or prove unsuccessful, consider joining groups that tend to draw in queer folk, such as theatre and arts. Anything that is progressive or involved in self-expression tend to be safe spaces for LGBT people. Joining one that aligns with your interests should help you find your dream partner.

Be Yourself:

No matter which avenue you take, remember that being yourself is important. If you lie about yourself, you will find it harder to match with someone who may fit you best.

Author's Bio: 

Shawn Yale, freelance writer and LGBTQIA Advocate.
I try to be a voice for the voiceless in the community. I have been writing for over a decade on topics related to the successes, suppression, and insecurities faced by our community. I believe through story telling, sharing successes, and finding commonality through the many aspects of the human experience we will change the world or at least make it better.