Do you ever find yourself thrown into panic mode because you are trying really hard and doing everything that you can think of, but things still are not turning out as you planned?

I see this frequently with my clients, and I admit I fall into this trap sometimes myself. Usually it goes something like this: You have made the commitment to create your kick-ass dream life and you are diligently creating your own healing /coaching business. You are making some progress, but you feel like things have come to a standstill. You start wondering what you are doing wrong and you kick it into high gear and start working more hours, trying to figure out what you can DO to create more business and opportunities. The money is not flowing in as you would like, and you start to panic a bit.

You have no idea what the problem is, and failure is not an option. You keep pushing forward but it is all starting to feel a bit crappy and not so kick-ass!

What do you do?

Do you keep pushing forward?

After all, you are in-it-to-win-it. You are determined to make this work and you figure that eventually something has to give.

Eventually something will give, and it will probably be your health, or your sanity.

The solution to your problem is not working harder, more hours, or your ability to figure it out and push on through, even though that is what most people believe. This idea is one big ole' pre-packaged belief. It is built up on the idea that you need to work really hard in order to justify having the things that you want, and it carries around with it an underlying message that if you can't make it happen, there MUST be something wrong with you.

Just so you know, this is a bunch of crap!

Sure, hard work and determination are wonderful, as long as it is moving you in the right direction. When it is not you find yourself working really hard and not getting the results that you want, and feeling like there is something wrong with you because you can't seem to make it work. You also tend to end up way off course because you start trying things out of desperation that are not in alignment with you dream and the results that you get are far from what you desire.

The solution is to stop pushing and trying to make something happen, and to take a step back and calmly evaluate the situation to determine where you might be blocking yourself, or you where are out of alignment with your dream.

Rather than doing more and pushing harder, I suggest that you take a break and go have some fun and get tapped back into how you want to feel in your life. Then evaluate the situation to see where you are off course. Once you have a clear picture of where you are and where you want to be, it will be easier to make some new choices and take some inspired actions to get you back on track move you towards your dream.

It's all about stepping back and fine tuning your process so that you get the results that you desire without panicking and going way off course.

Below I share some tips for doing this.

1. As soon as you start to feel frustrated and stuck, and you have the urge to do more and work harder, take a break and walk away from the problem for a bit. Go do something fun. (After all, your kick-ass dream life is full of fun and ease isn't' it?)

2. Spend a few minutes reconnecting to your vision of what you want to create, allow yourself to really feel it.

3. Consider these questions: Am I attached to my dream unfolding a certain way? What are 10 other ways that I can go about achieving this same outcome?

4. Notice what is showing up. If it is not what you desire, how are you resonating enough with this result to attract it to you? What do you need to shift?

5. Think about how you want things to unfold and how you want to feel during the process.

Try out these tips next time you feel stuck and start telling yourself that you need to hunker down and make things happen and let me know how they work for you.

Author's Bio: 

Presented by Leah Shapiro; Kick-Ass Life Coach, Radio Show Host, & Head Rabble Rouser at

Leah is the champion for your non-conforming soul. Leah shows you how to break free from your unsatisfying, pre-packaged life in order to create the kick-ass life of your dreams.

When she is not focused on building her empire, hosting Defy the Box Radio, or writing for her blog, you can usually find her making pottery, playing with her two cats or whipping up something delicious in the kitchen.

A self admitted hedonist, Leah is frequently off engaging in pleasurable pursuits and is known to be a mighty temptress. Get your free copy of Leah's special report: The 4 Steps to Transform YOUR Life here: