The ability to deal effectively with other people, including disagreeable and sometimes even downright difficult people, is one of the most important skills of daily living.

Being able to get along with a wide variety of people and knowing how to have a conversation with difficult people can determine your success at school, on the job, and in life. Yet most people's skills in dealing with difficult people are sadly lacking.

Shy people can have even more trouble with difficult people, because of their seemingly "meek" or "timid" disposition, they can be a prime target for difficult behavior.

A researcher in the field of human relations by the name of Robert Conklin conducted a survey in which he asked 1000 people, "Do you feel you don't get along with others?" Nearly no one agreed that they were unable to get along with people. Yet when he asked the same number of respondents to list their "three greatest pet peeves," 998 listed gripes that were caused guessed it...other people!

One of the most important ingredients in dealing with difficult people is the "likability factor." It is the ability to gain the goodwill and respect and liking of others. If someone likes and respects you, they tend to be more mindful of your needs and desires.

Of course, you can't get everybody to like you. Still, this is another area in which shy people are at a distinct disadvantage. According to one of the world's foremost shyness researchers, Dr. Philip Zimbardo "Shy people are often not liked by as many people as they like... but in fact are liked by very few."

One way to improve your "likability factor" is to develop a skill for remembering peoples names. When you remember somebody's name, even after only one meeting, it sends a signal that you are interested in him or her, and by extension, that you are more likely to take his or her concerns and desires into consideration.

Remembering people's names when starting a new job is particularly important. It shows you are a "team player" and are interested in other people.

It also helps to quickly learn some key facts about your co-workers, such as their supervisory status, how long they have been at the workplace, their job title, and so on.

Knowing these things will be useful, as some people like to put on airs and pretend their job status is much higher than it actually is.

Knowing the facts on "who's who" will help you determine "what's what!"

Author's Bio: 

The author of this article describes many more ways to deal with difficult people effectively in his new course, "Break out of your Shell! How To Overcome Shyness So You Can Get On With Your Life!" In it, he discusses how to deal with many types of difficult people such as constant interrupters, people who go on and on and on and on, snobs, bossy coworkers, constant critics and argumentative know-it-alls.

Learn more about this breakthrough system at Shy Facts and get a FREE ebook, "How to Remember People's Names; the Master Key to Success and Popularity."

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