How to Make Your Man Fall in Love with You
Written by Marni Battista
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to know what’s going on in your man’s head, all the time? Okay, maybe not all the time. But it would be pretty great to know how to make your man fall in love with you.
I mean, you know he likes you A LOT. But it would be nice to know what those little triggers are that remind him how special you really are so that he falls for you hard, makes you feel like a princess, and respects you for who you are in all of your awesome-ness, right?
When a guy realizes you’re the ideal woman for him on an innate level, he’ll be ready to commit to you. So, how to get him to that point faster?
Dating with Dignity has a few tips for you.
1) Make him want to be the best man he can be.
Plenty of relationship-ready men we have talked with who are currently in successful, loving relationships told us know that one of the reasons they fell in love with their girlfriend or wife is because she made him want to be a better man. What that doesn’t include is telling him what you would do if you were in his shoes, fixing him, bossing him, or trying to motivate him to do things the way you think they should be done.
However, encouraging your guy in all his endeavors will make him want to improve for himself and also for you. Direct some of your energy toward supporting him, and he’ll direct some of his energy back to loving you.
You can do this by giving him compliments, acknowledging and validating how great he is at what he does, or telling him that whatever his dream is, you support him in making it happen. You can even ask him directly, “What would be most helpful for you? How can I support you, sexy?”
In addition, by articulating your needs, thoughts and opinions in a feminine, soft way in which you get him to help create the solution with you, he’ll feel that you respect him enough to figure out how to solve problems himself. Just asking him, “What should we do about that?” when a challenge arises will make him step into his alpha male and into loving you even more!
2) Make him feel like your hero.
Make your guy feel like Superman, and he’s going to much more easily fall in love with you and want to protect you in the love nest. Do you have a leaky faucet or a broke
AC? Ask him to fix it for you. Have a stock market question that you could ask your financial adviser? Ask your man.
Let him know you value his opinion, and he’ll be ready to swoop in and carry you off into the distance (literally and figuratively!). Since men don’t get to hunt and kill our food anymore, it’s imperative that you meet their biological need to protect.
And, asking for help doesn’t mean that you are weak or needy. On the contrary, it will let him know that even though you’re a strong and independent chick, you can also get your girl on and let him rule some parts of the roost!
3) Let him bathe in oxytocin. (Hear us out.)
Things like cooking together or having the same sprouted grain bread he has at his place will make him feel more comfortable with you. This will also make it easy for him to remind himself that you two are a “perfect fit.”
Guys crave comfort; and the minute he starts feeling comfortable enough to not even think about your relationship, he’ll begin the slide toward truly falling for you. Keeping good vibes around your place — nice sheets, good smells (Some guys literally think women have a magic power that makes their houses smell good!) won’t hurt either.
Being your authentic self in a relationship with a Boyfriend Material man is your first step to true happiness. Following the tips above will only help your man realize how special you are on a slightly quicker path.
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About the Author
Marni Battista, founder of Dating with Dignity, has professional training in dating and relationship coaching as well as training in the Core Energy Coaching Process from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching (IPEC). A certified Life Coach through the International Coaching Federation, Battista is also a Master Practitioner at administering an Energy Assessment—“The D-Factor”—which helps clients pinpoint exactly why they are or are not "date-able" and what types of messages they unconsciously broadcast to men based on their thoughts, feelings, actions and attitudes.
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