When your mission is to pick up girls, the best selection of hot girls is often found at the popular bars in your area. Picking up girls in bars can be fun and easy if you know
how to approach them the right way. You need to stand out and make yourself more noticeable than other guys. (My book "Mack Tactics" contains an entire chapter on approach tactics, and gives you clever & wickedly effective openers to use in virtually any situation.).
With that said, here are some tips on how to pick up girls at bars:
1. Before leaving your house, you need to make sure that you look great. You certainly don't need to be tall and well-built to attract women, but you absolutely must be clean, well-dressed and most importantly well-groomed. First impressions are important, after all. Wear nice clothes, brush your teeth, comb your hair, etc. Also, your scent should be attractive; this means get rid of the cheap cologne and start wearing the good stuff (I like Calvin Klein and Bulgari, personally)..
2. From the moment you want into the bar to start picking up girls, you should project confidence. If you are naturally a shy, nervous guy, you'll need to fake this confidence until you start achieving some success (which is how you develop REAL confidence with women). Hold your head up high and make contact with girls. Also keep in mind that most of the other guys in the bar are just as nervous as you -- if not more so -- when it comes to approaching girls and trying to start a conversation. Those who at least try to fake their confidence will be able to pick up girls at bars better than those who let their nervousness get the best of them.
3. You're going to have to learn how to approach women if you're going to successfully pick up girls when you go out. Unless you're lucky and they approach you first, you are going to have to overcome your shyness and go up to them. Don't only try to target women who are alone; usually, women go out in groups, and approaching groups of women is not big deal when you've got some solid techniques. If she's alone, go up to her, smile, and use one of the openers I explain the "Mack Tactics" book. If she (or the group) is not receptive, don't try to force it. Just move on to another prospect. And stop worrying about being "rejected," would you? Tell yourself that there are two types of women in this bar tonight: FUN and BORING. The fun girls will want to talk to you, because you're a fun guy; the boring girls won't want to, but they're boring anyway so who cares. This is an important attitude to take when you're out to pick up girls at bars. If you want to approach a group of girls, treat them all nicely. Don't make it obvious which girl in the group is your target.
4. Next, when you approach a girl and start a conversation your tone of voice -- and the topics you discuss -- should be positive. Only talk about the positive things in your life and not the negative ones. Remember, she didn't spend two hours earlier tonight doing her hair and makeup, and selecting her outfit, so that she could out to a bar and be be bored and depressed. She came here tonight to have fun. If you can provide her with that, she'll want to hang out with you.
5. When your mission is to
pick up girls, you can't be overly loud or aggressive (especially towards other guys, even if you view them as "the competition". Go ahead and have fun, but you don't want to be that annoying guy who gets on everybody's nerves. I know that for a lot of guys, imbibing some "liquid courage" helps them to loosen up and feel more comfortable when picking up women. But when it comes to picking up girls in bars, you shouldn't let yourself become too drunk.
6. Pay careful attention to the people around you, and the social interactions of others. Make it a habit to watch how girls behave in bars -- when they're socializing with their friends, and when they get approached by random men. In order to pick up girls at bars, you should observe them for a few minutes before approaching them. I came up with some of my best conversational material by listening in on other conversations! I've heard guys use clever openers which I then borrowed, and I've also seen guys make a ton of MISTAKES which I then know to avoid making myself.. It's better to plan your moves carefully before approaching a woman than to go right up to her as soon as you see her. Becoming a master at picking up girls requires patience, discipline, and most of all PRACTICE.
The next time you go out to have some fun and pick up girls, keep these principles in mind. Now, if you're ready to learn the EXACT openers that I use to "break the ice" with hot girls and start conversations, click here and download this free guide:
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