How to Survive a Sudden Breakup

One minute you feel like you are on top of the world. You have a great relationship with someone that may just be “the one.” You get along great, the relationship is progressing nicely, you get along with each other’s friends and family and then, it all comes to a screeching halt. Just as quickly as it began (maybe even quicker), the relationship is over. If this has happened to you, you realize how difficult it can be to survive a sudden breakup; however, it is not impossible.

Realize that you are going to hurt. There is simply no magical way to make the pain disappear, or to wake up and feel great about what has happened. Especially if the relationship was a long one, the sudden absence of it can feel like a hole in your life. Remember that these feelings are normal. Rather than bottling them up, or trying to ignore them, let them out. Talk with a close friend, write in a journal, cry, whatever it takes to cope with these feelings. Remember, that while these feelings will gradually subside, it is going to take time. Whatever you do, do not turn to a “quick fix” to make the pain go away. Alcohol, drugs, or other similar options, will not actually take the pain away. They will, in fact, only add to it.

It is important to be realistic about the breakup. It is very easy, especially if you were not the one who ended it, to hold out false hope of resuming the relationship. Unfortunately, this can actually prevent you from dealing with your feelings, and serve to extend the pain even longer.

While there may have been a good reason why the relationship ended, such as a fundamental incompatibility, there is also the very real possibility that you may never know the real reason why the relationship ended. It may have been something with the other person that you may never really figure out, because he or she never disclosed that information to you. Do not waste countless hours trying to understand the “why” of the situation.

It is important to keep yourself busy, active and socializing with other people. It is only natural to want to be alone, especially in the immediate aftermath. However, it is important to remember that you need interaction with other people. You need to keep yourself occupied and positive. Sitting at home staring at photos is not going to help you do that.

There is no denying that a sudden breakup can be devastating. Like many things in life, however, the effects can be temporary is you do not dwell on the situation.