When you’re starting to think about “how to win my husband back”, then the problem is really serious. He might have told you his decision or you may even have signed the divorce paper. Either way, none of them signifies that you have lost your chance. Countless couples reconnect every day and you can be one of them too if you know how to do it right.

Needless to say, given that you’re the one who wants to keep the marriage, you’ll have to put some serious efforts into it. Here's what you must put in priority first:

Looking for the real issue

Needless to say, the separation is caused by a certain problem in your relationship. He might have told you the truth or only a part of it, but here are a few ideas on the real problems that can make a man to leave his wife:

- Conflict; of course, no marriage can run smoothly without issue in any way. Nonetheless, at times it could be too much for him to deal with. If every time he comes back home from work he finds you already there with a bunch of problems and complaints, it might prove too much for his tolerance.

- Stagnancy; you’ve married for 5 years and the two of you keep doing exactly the same thing day after day. He asks you to do something distinct, but you decline since you already at your “comfort zone”. For men (particularly the outgoing one), this can kill the spark immediately.

Can you resolve the problems?

This is the biggest question. If you have identified the issue, can you find a solution? Is it something you could make compromises on? Are you prepared to change your long-time attitudes and behaviors to save your marriage?

Consider about it seriously and weigh on every option. You might have to give up a few things in your life, but you can get your marriage back. Will it be worth the sacrifice? If you believe it's not, then it's probably best to leave things as it is.

Initial Contact

Should you decide that the marriage is all that you want and you’re prepared to make several sacrifices and compromises to get it back, then you have to initiate contact with him. Don’t do this right away. Give him some time to think thoroughly about how things are currently. Just because he is the one who sent you the divorce paper doesn’t imply that he’s absolutely sure about the divorce. Then, you are able to meet him again as friends.

Reintroduce the spark

Get him to see that you're a better person now and all those problems that he saw in you in the past are completely disappeared. Don’t act too flirtatious, simply be your (new) self and be there for him. 1st meeting will resulted in the next one and first date will lead to second and third. You might encounter hurdles every now and again, but provided that you’re keep trying, there is always a chance that he will take you once again.

Always think positive. “I can win my husband back” is the one that you should tell yourself all the time. If you already know the real problem and willing to make some compromises on your side to fix it, the next thing to do is showing your new self to him. Don’t act desperate or trying to force yourself into him, you’ll eventually get his trust again.

Author's Bio: 

I highly recommend that you read why men leave their wives to find out the true reasons behind the divorce. Also, read have your man back for additional tips on having him back to your side.