In a health crisis, you will find many suggestions that come from the professionals you see that tell you what to do, but equally important is how you do them. In the past, the doctor’s role in healing was to be the unquestionable authority. Today, in the interest of reducing medical expenses, the doctor/patient partnership is the most authoritative way to get the best treatments. The doctor’s training and medical treatments are constantly evolving, but we need to learn how to develop one important aspect of healing-the patient’s role.

You may be told what your medication should be, specific exercises, your diet and how to sleep better, but how you do those will determine the benefits you receive. This article will not tell you what you need to do; the focus is to help you perform your actions from your most “conscious self”. The doctor’s treatment is a beneficial path to follow when you need to heal, but how you do what you do determines how actively you get involved. Your involvement has to be free from limiting conditioning you received in the past which block you from connecting to what I call The Wisdom of your Body, the home of powerful inner resources.

This article will present three life skills that will help connect you to the Wisdom of your Body. What would happen if you could consciously trigger the self-image you would be operating from? That would determine how you would interpret and deal with what happens to you. The first life skill, a positive self-image will naturally create conscious interpretations. A conscious interpretation would unleash inner resources, while an unconscious interpretation could create self-doubt, fear and a compromised immune response to health problems.

The second life skill is self-trust. The simple way you trust yourself will determine how active you become in the healing process. Self-trust is the key to connecting to the Wisdom of the Body. When you don’t trust yourself, you will be stuck in worry and limiting thoughts. It is very difficult to change without trust, because of the tendency to hold onto thinking as you ignore your deepest inner wisdom.

The third life skill we need to develop is conscious breathing. Our breath is so much more than simply giving us the oxygen we need to live. Our breath is a tool to accurately direct our awareness; what we breathe into is what we give life to and within that breath is the consciousness that makes us aware. When we breathe into our thoughts, we activate them and give them life. If we breathe into fears and negative thoughts, they seem to become our reality and that is what manifests. If we learn to breathe into the silence beyond our thoughts, we activate the Wisdom of the Body and powerful inner resources.

The life skills mentioned above are very subtle and if people were not taught them as a child, they often get ignored. Most people relate to subtle life skills as “that is just the way I am.” If these life skills were poorly developed within you or you have little trace of conscious conditioning, it is not too late to consciously condition your sub-conscious mind. You cannot just intellectually understand these life skills. If they are conditioned into the sub-conscious mind, they operate automatically on a level that changes your character.

Now, here is the main question regarding this article: If the life skills developed within you were not conscious…why don’t you change them? It is possible to consciously condition life skills in the sub-conscious mind. That means when you face a health crisis, you are not a victim to your past conditioning. Even if you are sick, you have powerful inner resources that help you cope consciously and the real quality of life doesn’t have to be compromised.

If you realize that real quality is not based on the health of your body, it is based on your focus; you can experience quality of life even when you are sick. That is what I call a healthy way to be sick. If you develop life skills that allow you to heal better, those same skills will help you develop a new perspective to better deal with the challenges that have yet manifested. It could be your need to change your work, what you do in solitude or even how you relate to specific people. The fact is if you change the life skills, like your self-image, how you trust yourself or consciously breathe, you change the way you manifest.

Healing requires a conscious perspective just to activate inner resources. If you don’t have a conscious perspective, you can change the life skills that limit you. In healing, these changes are vital because they can reduce suffering, make the doctor’s treatment more effective and literally save your life.

Marc Lerner, the author of A Healthy Way to Be Sick teaches you how to create conscious habits that develop essential life skills. He is President of Life Skills Institute, with his work displayed on the website On his site, you will find 14 radio shows with special guests and experiential techniques that develop these life skills, information about tele-seminars and how to buy his book. He has expert author status on, with over 70 articles posted. Go to and search Marc Lerner.
© 2011 Marc Lerner and Life Skills Institute

Author's Bio: 

Marc Lerner is the President of Life Skills Institute and has been working since 1982 with people in a health struggle. He is the author of A HEALTHY WAY TO BE SICK, which teaches you how to consciously create yourself in the midst of a health challenge. Marc was the host of the internet radio show, A Healthy Way to be Sick. Go to: to listen to all archived shows.
Marc has had MS since 1981, is legally blind and in a wheelchair. The idea of a healthy way to be sick reflects a positive spirit during difficult times. If a patient consciously approached the healing process, they would become valuable partners with their doctor. Marc has been working with people in a health crisis for decades and knows that this is a significant resource in a national health plan. Marc has developed simple techniques that transport your consciousness to powerful inner resources which can reduce medical expenses and personal anxiety.