Have you been through a break up lately? Did you leave your boyfriend or is it the other way around? Have you thought about getting together again? If you answer YES to that last question, here are some things you need to know before you try to get your ex boyfriend back.

1. Who broke up with who?

Although this may not be that important for some people, I extremely suggest that you ask yourself this question and answer it. You may be in that point in your life that you really miss the ex boyfriend, the dates, the memories and what-not, that this may not be a good time to think about who broke up with who. But then again, this one will help you decide if you should or should not do that first step to winning your ex boyfriend back.ad20751h300x100A

Was it you who broke up with him? If YES, then maybe you do have the right to think about getting back with him again. Just make sure that you won’t look like someone who changes her mind that easily or else it’ll just scare or piss him off. If it was him who broke up with you, then get ready. If you are willing to swallow your pride no matter what results you get in the end, then by all means, do it.

2. What’s the reason for the break up?

Some break ups are caused by negative traits that any of the two parties possess. It is true that when you love someone, you should love the person for who he or she is. It is also for that same reason that the word COMPROMISE was invented. Unless you are sure that you can work things out and adjust for each other, you shouldn’t be getting back together.

Infidelity is also one reason why people get separated. What’s really hard is that infidelity is a very broad concept. Deciding to get back with the ex or not depends on how grave the infidelity was, the reason there was a third party and the possibility of it happening again.

3. Why would you even want to win him back?

And then there’s also your reason why you would want to get into a relationship with the same boy again. Think hard and try to commune with yourself. Why? I mean really? Although most people would say it’s because of love, there are still those few who have other reasons. Okay. Don’t tell me about love not looking for reasons. I am just being realistic here.

We live our lives in terms of motives. We eat because we get hungry. We drink because we get thirsty. We work because we need money to provide us with our basic necessities. We make friends because we don’t want to get lonely. And we get into relationships because of a lot of different reasons. So what I’m trying to point out here is, before you win your ex boyfriend back, you should try to know yourself first and know if you really, really need to be with him again. That way, you’ll prevent future emotional damage, mental disturbance and psychological trauma.

Email me anytime at lori@loripinkerton.com and ask me questions so I can help you in this area.

Author's Bio: 

Lori Pinkerton
Author, Speaker, Coach

Lori Pinkerton specializes in helping woman break through the cycles of relationship disappointments and missed opportunities.
With her innovative process, Lori teaches women how to “grab” the advantages in dating and love.

She helps women rediscover themselves and their dreams. This is easier to say and harder to do. Knowing this, Lori’s coaching products and services take learning one step further by showing women “how to” use these discoveries to have

the relationships most only dream of!

Lori Pinkerton has made a career out of her passion—helping every woman, no matter who they are, create irresistible connections on their dates and ultimately find the love of their life.

Her success caught the eye of TV’s 180 Life and Style Makeovers, a national television show that premiered in the fall of 2010 on the Oxygen channel, and the first show of its kind to account for the whole woman. The producers invited her to share her secrets with America. As the show’s dating and relationships expert, Lori teaches the women how to breathe new love into their lives and she helps women create relationships that leave them feeling wanted instead of feeling wanting.

Her proven tools get to the heart of what matters—showing women how to create the dates they dream of and experience an intimacy that most have given up on ever finding.

Lori doesn’t believe in settling—that’s why she took the scary step of leaving an unfulfilling marriage after 23 years. Tired of her depression and unhappiness, she abruptly took her perfectly imperfect life off autopilot.

Raised by nine moms and three dads before the age of ten, Lori spent her young adult life building a castle of stability around herself.

“I grew up very poor. My granny used to say all the time, ‘If we just had money, everything would be great,’” she says. But once Lori reached the top of that castle—surrounded by multiple houses, a successful construction business, and a model family—she looked down and wondered, “Why do I feel so empty? How come I never feel good enough?”

Lori would find an answer in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), a tool for re-envisioning herself beyond the self-imposed limits that had kept her confined for so many years. After studying under NLP expert Richard Bandler, she became a certified trainer and began helping others recognize and act on their vast potential in their personal and professional lives. As a life coach she was wildly successful.

But the now-foreign world of dating made her head spin. She admits,“It took me a year after the divorce to even start dating.” Then the idea to use her business and life-coaching experience in her dating hit her like a ton a bricks. She started Get Up and Date to support women in finding quality dates that lead to lasting love ~ because she understands that settling is too often an easy alternative to fighting for what you want.

This hard-working author, speaker, and coach—now has expanded her reach to help couples reunite and stay together not as the broken shell of what used to be but a TRUE expression of what love is. For more information and transformation as a couple check out her ground breaking programs at:
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