You have already made the first step towards getting back together with your ex-boyfriend, by actually admitting that this is what you want.  This is not easy, particularly if you were the one to finally end the relationship.  You may find that your ex is extremely reluctant to get involved with you again, especially if you hurt him last time.  Understandably, he will not want to risk this happening for a second time.

This mean that, if getting back together is definitely what you want, you need to be prepared to put in some effort and convince him that your relationship can work on your second attempt.  If he is reluctant to answer your calls or text messages, think about how long it has been since the break up actually happened.  If it is a matter of days, then think about how he must be feeling right now, and let him have some time to sort out his emotions.  You may find, after a month or so, that he will be more prepared to talk to you.

If you are able to start talking again, that’s great, and this will give you the best chance of being able to get back together.  However, if he is still avoiding you, you may need to rethink your decision and whether getting back together is really going to be the best option for you both.  If you decide that it is, then you will need to start taking more drastic measures to get him back.

Firstly, focus on yourself.  Make yourself look great so that you can show him exactly what he is missing.  Whether this involves some new clothes, cutting and colouring your hair, or actually making the effort to go to the gym regularly and get into shape, this is up to you.  Take pride in your appearance and make sure you dress to flatter your figure.  If you normally wear make-up, then don’t forget to apply it.

The next stage is to make sure that you run into your ex when you are out and about.  It would be advisable for you to take a friend with you, as this will stop your intentions from being quite so obvious.  You will know some of his favourite places, so this means you can casually bump into him at some point.  When you see him, smile and say hello if you are close enough to do this, but for the first time, don’t make a point of going over to him to start a conversation.  He will probably be feeling very unsure of what to do, so a friendly, open smile will go a long way towards reassuring him.

Your aim here is to get him to approach you, rather than the other way around.  This will enable you to find out whether he is really interested in giving your relationship another go or not.  A long conversation at this point is not really what you are after; you are simply trying to re-establish communication between the two of you.

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