Are you acting like the wife without getting the full benefits of being the wife? If you have no desire to go further than his girlfriend, STOP reading this article now. If you desire marriage and you don’t want to get trapped in the role of giving too many benefits of marriage but never getting married, read on. If you are consistently giving away any of the following benefits of marriage without being married, you are giving him the milk for free.

Playing house -Maid services- Cooking and cleaning on a regular basis

Shacking– Waking up to him more than 3 times a week

Financial Gains– Combining finances and paying bills as a married couple

Private Matters– Sharing all of your logins, personal information, cellphone passwords, etc. with him as if you are the wife

Booty Calls– Available and on call for sex

Motherly Duties– Playing the role of mother to his kids that are not your own

Taxi Services– He drives your vehicle more than you but you’re paying the car payments

Concierge Services– Purchasing groceries for his home, running errands, making telephone calls to pay his bills, house services, pet services, arranging travel events, scheduling doctor’s appointments, etc.

Added Responsibility– Playing the role of mother to a grown man that is not your husband

Wrong Titles– Accepting any other titles besides wife that comes along with a legal document including but not limited to common law wife, girlfriend, old lady, side chick, boo, ride or die, love of my life, my only woman, baby momma, babies momma, mother of my children, best friend

Question to ask yourself: Why am I investing so much time and energy into a man that has not formally committed himself to me?

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and Why buy a cow when milk is so cheap?

Prov. Why pay for something that you can get for free otherwise.(Sometimes used to describe someone who will not marry because sex without any commitment is so easy to obtain. Jocular and crude.) I don’t have a car because someone always gives me a ride to work. Why buy a cow when you can get milk for free? Mary told her daughter, “You may think that boy will marry you because you’re willing to sleep with him, but why should he buy a cow if he can get milk for free?”

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This idiom is usually used to refer to men who don’t want to get married, when they can get all the benefits of marriage without getting married.

Please feel free to add to this list of benefits in the comments section.

Author's Bio: 

Latorria Pier is an author, a student at Christian Leaders Institute and founder of Special's Quality Care Centers. Her organization is a Christian based non- profit organization that works diligently through many volunteer efforts to empower women and families to initiate personal and social change. She is the author of “Turn My Life Around” Discovering Your Purpose; a 365 day devotional book that helps women discover their divine purpose. She is passionate about empowering and inspiring women to seek their divine purpose within their greatest pain. She is a frequent blogger with word press as her main selection. She also writes articles for Latorria believes that through her pain and sorrow, God has prepared her to share His word with others in a way that was made just for her. She allows her testimony to serve as an example of how God can turn a negative experience into something positive.