Now before you get all upset about the fact that I mean you have to give up, that’s not what this is about.

We have great plans for ourselves most of the time and we have a good idea of what we want out of life, where we see our life going and how it will all play out. And most of the time it is with great success, lots of friends, a lovely place to live, a great car and surrounded by family.

These are all wonderful aspirations, but what happens if these things do not come to pass? How do you feel about things then?

There are many times when we pin our hopes, happiness and measure our success by certain accomplishments that we have deemed to bring us the feeling that we want – usually security or happiness. And when we don’t get these things, we feel dejected, angry, unhappy, not good enough, unsupported or not safe.

When we look to the world to provide these feelings to us, we will most likely be disappointed or feel resentment.

Finding the feeling of security, success, happiness or love within ourselves can lead us to a much happier life overall. We never have to have expectations of the world around us and we are never disappointed.

And best of all we are in a better position to accept all that is happening around us, whether it is good or bad. It’s always easy to accept what is when things are going good. But what about when things are not going well? Is it possible to accept what is? Can you see the value of what is happening even if it is not part of your game plan? Can you feel happy, safe, successful and supported even when the chips are down?

Feel all of these things from within and it will never matter what is happening around you because it will not affect how you feel. This is the ideal way to be in life.

This doesn’t mean that you don’t get up, dust yourself off and try again. It means you accept what is in this moment because chances are you can’t change what has happened. And they you try again, or try something new.

Life is always there waiting for you to enjoy it. All you have to do is accept what it is providing.

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Author's Bio: 

Bettina Goodwin is a Conscious Living Coach, Reiki Practitioner, writer and facilitator who began her own journey of self-discovery several years ago. Letting go of her negative thoughts and feelings and changing her belief system helped her to find balance, peace and contentment in her life, shifting all her relationships and living the life that she has always desired including meeting and marrying her beloved partner Peter.