How often do you find yourself in an intense argument over a disagreement? Too often, relationships tear apart due to disagreements. Why do we feel the NEED to be right? If someone does not agree with you why give them the cold shoulder? Is it really worth it? Does it make you feel good? Wouldn’t it be easier to agree to disagree; to allow one another to have their OWN thoughts and opinions on any given subject? Isn’t this what makes each one of us unique? Can you imagine a world that was full of exactly the same person, or a world where everyone agreed on the same thing? How boring would that be? It is our own thoughts and opinions that make us who we are.

Many times, due to disagreements one or the other ends up shutting down. We close ourselves off from certain subjects in order to avoid another argument. Have you ever thought of what this does to the relationship? It slowly kills it. Who would want to be in a relationship where they could not express themselves freely and openly without the fear of being criticized or condemned?

Instead of butting heads over the things you do not agree with, find love in your differences. Cherish and appreciate your differences. Allow one another to be their own unique self and then sit back and watch them flourish. When you take the time to listen to someone else not only are you getting to know them, but you are also getting to know yourself through your differences. It gives you a clearer picture of what you believe in and the things you stand for. There is also the possibility that you may discover something wonderful within their thoughts and opinions.

When I come across someone who thinks I am totally out in left field because of what I believe, I accept it, I accept them and I accept their opinion of it. It really is that easy and it makes having a conversation much more enjoyable. There is nothing wrong with LISTENING to someone else’s personal or global views. It does not mean you have to agree with them. What saddens me the most is when someone gets angry or walks away just because I don’t agree with every word they are saying. This just goes to show me they have some insecurity issues rolling around inside of them.

We all came into this world with our own agenda, not anyone else’s. What is so wrong with allowing everyone to be whom he or she chooses to be? Would it not make for a more pleasant experience? Instead of trying to change the thoughts, opinions, and beliefs of another, just worry about your own and be proud of the things you stand for. You do not need anyone to justify your choices. Just AGREE TO DISAGREE!

Author's Bio: 

Cindy is a Personal Development Life Coach. Her knowledge and expertise comes from 20 years of study, personal life experiences, and from working as a community volunteer and mentor. Cindy coaches people toward finding true happiness and life fulfillment, guiding them along their own unique path. To learn more about Cindy go to or visit her personal blog at