In Spite of My Best Efforts, I Can't Find Anyone

Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old finding Big Love is always possible. Email your questions to: soulmatesecret@yahoo.com Dear Arielle and Brian: I have been divorced for nearly ten years from someone I really loved me but constantly cheated on me. I have been on a spiritual path for many years now, I have done affirmations and made vision boards but in spite of my best efforts to "get out there" and meet someone new nothing ever seems to happen. What do you suggest? Thank you,rnEvelyn rnDear Evelyn, Brian and I went to see the movie LAST CHANCE HARVEY recently. What moved me most about this tender film (which tells the story of two people at mid-life discovering the possibility of love and happiness) was the moment towards the end of the film when Harvey (Dustin Hoffman) makes it very clear to Kate (played by Emma Thompson) that he wants to have a relationship with her. Kate, a middle-aged single woman, who has been hurt too many times in the past, says to Harvey: "I'm not going to do it because it will hurt. Not right now, maybe, but soon - there will be a 'it's not quite working is it' or a 'I need some space' or whatever it is and it'll end and it'll hurt and I won't do it, I won't and...I... I don't want this... I think it's actually easier for me to be disappointed." As I sat in the dark theater, waiting for Kate to snap out of her misery and say YES to this man who was taking a stand for her, I realized that Kate had just said out loud the thoughts so many singles have said to themselves. That love is just too hard and at some level accepting disappointment is EASIER than taking a risk for love. Evelyn, right now you get to make a choice. You can choose to give up on love or you can decide that you deserve to find your soulmate and create the life of your dreams with him or her. If you think it's too late consider this: I did it at age 44. My mother-in-law Peggy did it at age 80. The first step is to make the choice to put your "intention" and "attention" on your love life. The next step is to become humble enough to forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made and to forgive those who have hurt you in the past. Having purified your heart of bitterness and regrets, you'll have renewed clarity to create your soulmate wish list, your Treasure Map, and to set about doing all of the fun, energizing projects, prayers, rituals and feelingizations that are outlined in The Soulmate Secret. www.soulmatesecret.com Come on, what are you waiting for? Start manifesting your soulmate today and add more love to the world. Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,rnArielle & Brian Disclaimer: Arielle Ford, Brian Hilliard, the Big Love column and its publishers assume no responsibility for any consequence relating directly or indirectly to any action or inaction you take based on the information, services or other material related to this column.