Influence Of The Parenting Techniques On Today's Children

Growing up I lived with a family where it was myself and two younger brothers being raised by an absent father and a devoted mother. While our father had little influence in our life away from financial support, my mother dedicated her entire life towards taking care of her family and making sure we had a well balanced youth. She did not have the advantage of advanced parenting techniques because we grew up in a time where parents were simply expected to raise their children on blind luck rather than with the expertise of psychology. My youngest brother and I could very easily be described as healthy and happy children, usually appreciating what was given to us and enjoying life most often. Granted there were times of rebellion or disobedience but these phases were short and few between. Considering the way my brother and I were, a lot of individuals would hope for the same behavior out of my other brother, while this could not be further from the reality.

While you looked at my family my younger brother will easily fall under the category of aggressive kids. My mother often tells the story of him rising up as a happy child just like the rest of us until one day he took my grandfather’s spectacles, snapped them in half, and then laughed about the scenario rather than feel remorseful. This started a very long pattern of naughtiness and rebelliousness that can even be found in his adult patterns. It is important to recognize that there was no variation in love provided and no difference of attention, he simply behaved in a different way in the most negative manner possible.

When I was twelve my dad passed away and my mother was forced to start working which only appeared to exacerbate the scenario. Now free of supervision my brother quickly became attached to harmful influences like smoking, drugs and alcohol, often struggling with my mother and finally bring confusion to our family. It is vital to point out that even with our residence in confusion both my youngest brother and I had no variation in character and continued to appreciate all our mother had ever done for us. In hindsight I begin to wonder how things should have been different if my mother had access to the immense parenting methods which are available to parents today.

I am now a father and have chosen to take benefit of the parenting techniques which were not available to my mother in order to assist in raising my children. I have read a variety of unique methods and have seen that one of the most efficient opportunities available were created by Laura Fobler. Through her techniques I have discovered incredible insight into the minds of kids. I learned so much about my kids, because I am now able to comprehend why my children act the way they do. Also, I now know how to prevent many conflicts and on top of that, the quality of the relationship between my child and I, improves by the day! Learning about the methods Laura Fobler mentions, I have created a new way when it comes to raising my children. And we all shall not be happier! If my mother had the opportunity to use these techniques, I am sure my brother’s life would have been completely different. Unluckily, I can't turn back the clock.