It Is All About Freedom

Today, I got a message asking me how I help people...

My first reaction to this question is usually "Go look!"  It is not like I hide what I do - It is everywhere if you care to look.

But then because I know people, I went beyond that to wondering why this person had reached out to me...

Now there are usually 2 reasons...

1. They want to sell me something and so they are pretending to be interested in what I am up to - I find this tedious especially as this reduces to the chances of me EVER buying anything from you because if you cannot be bothered to find out what I am up to and actually  show me how whatever it is you are selling to me, will help me then why the hell should I listen to you?!!!And this includes those who want to sell themselves to me as potential lovers!  Again, if you cannot be bothered to check and see that I am, in fact, happily married, then you know what - FUCK OFF!YUK!

   2. This is someone who actually has something they want help with but they are nervous about actually putting it out there.  They want to delay coming clean on whatever the issue is, they may want me to prove myself (which I never do - either you want to work with me, or you don't - I am everywhere, everyday so you either align with my message or you don't)

   It is usually a delaying tactic.  And I just ask straight out, what is the issue and most run away from such bluntness, others actually commit to themselves to seek support and they get it.  I am not one for small talk and I have wasted far too long on the phone or in messenger with people not willing to actually move forward so I cut straight to the chase these days...

Anyway, I decided to write this to actually say again, what I am about and how I work with people because I feel like it and it seems like the thing to talk about today, though I am finding it hard to come up with the words to summarize what I am about...

In one word, as the title says - FREEDOM!

that is my thing.

That is what I help people with...

Sometimes, it looks like financial freedom...

Sometimes it looks like emotional freedom...

Usually it is a mixture of both.

Why?

Because I used to be a leader trapped in bondage, pretending to be a follower, scared of my own power, living at a lower standard than I am capable of, afraid all the time, waiting for someone to come and rescue me, trying to hedge my bets and make sure that I got into heaven when I died and so living to please the people in my church and telling myself that I was pleasing God...

I used to be someone scared of my sexuality and hating the urges in me.  I used to think that God was against it all though I conveniently forgot that I was created with my sexuality and it was no afterthought.  Now, I did not think this out loud, I did not even really know that I felt this way, I just felt shame about my person and it affected all kinds of areas and definitely my creativity.

I did not love me.

I had been taught that something was wrong with me inherently - Born in sin and all that nonsense, battered into my brain.  Always feeling 'less than' - As if my relationship with God could only work if I was weak and so, I allowed myself to pretend to be less than who I am.

And actually, my relationship with God got better as I owned my power.  I chose Him rather than feeling I had to follow Him or else I would be struck by lightning and go to hell for all eternity.  I finally realised I was LOVED to my core and I did not have to perform for Him and that all that performance had been for the people...

To make them think that I belonged in their little cliques...

It was the only place I felt kinda at home and so I went along with it for a while, until I could not do it any longer...

No, I never quite felt at home with my family - Another place where I felt I had to jump through hoops to be accepted and so I finally found freedom there too...

I suddenly realised that I was an adult now and I no longer had to keep dancing to the tribal tune...

It took courage and working with a few coaches to finally own my power in this realm as well...

As human beings, we want to belong to something - There is a sense within us that we are one with others but then, it can be abused or more to the point, we let ourselves be abused because we desperately want to be loved and so, at times, we give up self-love to get external love and it never ends all that well...

Or maybe, I should say, it is the norm.

And so we can see from our planet that it does not end up well because people's energies are so caught up in trying to appease the people around them that they are not doing the work that they are here to do and our planet suffers as a result.

I know that seems like a big stretch but it is the way I see the world...

I see you, Leader, jumping through unnecessary hoops, trying to appease people who are also trying appease other people...

All you see is this situation in front of you and you try to ignore the longing inside of you to be more...

To discover and live to your purpose because that seems big and way out there and way beyond anything you can see right in front of you...

And yet, you are born with a powerful purpose and you are not free to explore it...

Too scared to really go after everything you desire!

Because of all the people in your religious organisation, your family...

Or so you, deep down, believe...

You would never say that out loud though...

Because that would feel like you are weak...

And you know you are not...

The other thing that stops you is just plain old fear that you will not be able to take care of your responsibilities...

And so you would rather stay stuck doing something safe, jumping through the hoops that some person puts in front of you to jump through instead of living to the fullness of your potential and changing other people's lives like you really do want to do but you tell yourself that your dreams are impractical...

I used to do that too...

And then I finally realised that they are impractical because I made the decision to believe that they are impractical...

After all, I have used an incredible amount of energy to create a life doing what I did not want to do, what if I simply used my energy to create a life I did want to live?

What if I allowed myself to explore what a free life could look like?

And guess what, IT LOOKS GOOD!

I feel more connected to God...

I feel more creative than ever before...

I more than replaced my pharmacist income in 2 different businesses, just by choosing to FINALLY believe that I could!  (Financial freedom is incredibly important to me as whatever the 'holier than thou' would say - How can you impact more of the world if you are broke?!!! )

I do not have to do things with family/friends that I used to feel I HAD TO do...

I can say 'NO' without all the guilt and angst leaving my energy available to pursue my calling...

I am FREE!

And that is what I help people with...

Some clients make more money and expand their businesses (I must admit I tend to only work with entrepreneurial types whether in business or thinking about it)

And having said that, some of my clients have gotten raises at work to the tune of over a quarter of their salaries as they found the courage and freedom to realise that their limitation was in their head and they could simply ask for what they wanted... (So yes, there are some exceptions!)

Some clients have more and better sex because they are no longer bound in bondage to an old idea about their bodies and themselves, this in turn make them more creative at work/business - therefore MORE money!

Some clients learn to put boundaries in place with family and friends and also to STOP feeling guilty about it - Guilt is a killer!! - This in turn allows them to be more creative and more able to uplevel their income and life leading to them being able to impact more people.

Some clients take ownership of their vision and actually find a way to monetize it because they finally discover they are free to do so...

Some clients leave horrid relationships because they realise that they are worth more than they had allowed themselves to believe - They are free.  Their businesses grow as a result.

Some clients simply get unstuck and stop hiding and become more bolshy and brave and deliberate about creating their life the way they want it...

Some change their business to something more aligned to their purpose...

FREEDOM is necessary!

FREEDOM is powerful...

And freedom has to be deliberately CREATED - It may be your birthright but most people sell it in exchange for being liked or for feeling 'safe' whatever that really means...

And I break you free of that!

Of course, I can only help you if you are ready to be helped...

And that is why I am everywhere doing something so that when you KNOW you want to be free, I pop right into mind for you...

There is so much more that I can tell you about the work that I do...

But methinks this is long enough...

If there is a longing in your heart for the freedom I talk about, I wrote a book called The Deliberate Millionaire's Freedom Book - Live Free, Wealthy, and with Purpose: Stop Living for the Weekend and Start Doing What You Want, When You Want - Deliberately and I am giving it away for free.  It is an Amazon Bestseller and you can read the review http://RosemaryNonnyKnight.com/freebook