Keeping Your Marriage Sizzlin Hot

Your alarm clock rings at 6 a.m. You think of your schedule at the office even before you could scratch yourself in the morning. By the time you drop the kids off to school you’re already too tired to go to work. And if things can’t get any worse, you forgot that you have an important meeting at 8 and now your boss is going ballistic! Great, that’s already the third time this week. Everyday, life becomes more and more hectic, it seems. Multi-tasking has become second nature to you, with all the responsibilities that you have to handle day in and day out.

The kids,spouse,job, household chores, bills – you just can’t take any time off even if you badly need to. A lot of times you wish that you could just toss everything out of the window and have an entire lazy day all to yourself. Looking back at the past few years of your life, you start to wonder...”what have I done wrong? Why has everything become so frightfully dull and tiresome?” Then you almost wish that you have stayed single and sane. Have you ever felt this way? Do you still remember why you got married in the first place? Sure, it seems impossible to be romantic with your spouse when you’re up to your elbows washing pots and pans...but yeah, it IS quite possible.

Keeping romance in a marriage does not require a lot of money or hard work or time. All it takes is a little creativity and willingness from both of you. Here are some of the simplest ways to sizzle up your relationship: Honesty is still the best policy. Be straightforward and honest with what you think and feel. Women often make the mistake of thinking that men are mind-readers. If you want your husband to do the dishes after dinner, don’t start yelling and plunking dishes on the sink.Tell him out loud and straight up. Nothing else compares to a gentle “please” and “thank you”.

Say “I love you”. No, it’s not corny or cheesy...unless you feel otherwise, say it. Make it a habit to say these three little words. It won’t solve all your problems but, just by reminding him how much he means to you can do wonders to your marriage. Listen to each other. Whether it’s a senseless joke or something about work, learn to listen. Ask questions. Sometimes it will surprise you that you still have a lot of things to learn about each other even after years of being together. Get lazy together. It’s not a crime to leave the dishes on the sink occasionally.

Or let the kids do it if they’re old enough. Cuddle up, watch a movie, or take an afte
oon stroll. Spending some quality time together doesn’t have to be fancy and expensive. Relax in each other’s company and be reminded of the good times that you’ve had and could still have. Never let your job or business run your entire life. Sometimes it’s so easy to get caught up in an illustrious career. You love the recognition and the compensation...but what of the kids and your spouse? Love your job, but keep your priorities straight. Raising a family is hard—keeping romance in a marriage is harder.

But, it doesn’t take a miracle to make a marriage work. All it takes is a little time off from the hustle and bustle of our everyday lives, the commitment to make it work and a whole bunch of love for each other.