Learning to Let Go
Written by Sarah Maria
The more you want something, the more you need to let it go. This can seem counter-intuitive. I mean, it's important to feel passionate about something, right?
Well, yes and no. Feeling passionate about something, wanting to make a difference, wanting to make an impact - these are all good things.
Often when we are passionate about something, however, we have a tendency to grasp or cling to a specific outcome. When we do this, our well-being is affected by whether or not we achieve the desired outcome.
When this happens, our well-being becomes dependent on a specific result. And when this happens, we lose site of our true nature, which is already complete, already whole, and already perfect.
Take, for example, the environment. Increasing numbers of people want to help reverse the catastrohpic environmental damage, which is certainly very important, worthwhile, and valuable. Yet it is very easy to become dismayed and discouraged when things don't seem to be improving, changing, or going the way you might want them to.
The environment is just one example - the same holds true for absolutely anything you desire in your life.
The problem is that when you are attached the results, your sense of well-being becomes compromised. When this happens, you are actually less effective and less able to create the outcomes you desire. Your possibilities are eclipsed by clinging and grasping after a result.
So no matter how much you care about something, practice letting it go. When you are able to let it go, if even just a little bit, you have much more freedom and ability to create the change you want in your life and in the world.
One of the things that makes it very difficult to let go is the feeling of pain. You might feel pain about the state of the environment, or pain about the loss of a loved one. You might have a broken heart because of the chaos in the world, the loss of your financial nest egg, the loss of a dream, or the loss of a loved one.
Whatever the case, in order to create the life you want, in order to make the impact you want, in order to become the person you want to be, you must heal the broken parts of your heart.
As you heal your heart from the disappointment, the grief, the loneliness, the pain, the frustration - whatever - you will discover that you can pursue your dreams with passion, but you have no need to cling and grasp after a particular outcome. You can set an intention, let it go, and live the life you know you are meant to live.
To help you heal your heart and live your dreams, I am going to be teaching a tele-class on May 19th. Mark your calendars and save the date - more information will follow soon!
In the meantime, practice letting go and basking in the presence that you already are. From this place, everything will flow with more ease and less effort.
Peace, Love, Beauty,
Sarah Maria
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