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Legal Domestic Violence - 3 Secrets of Divorce Lawyer’s Seduction Strategy with Battered Women

Written by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Topic: Abuse and RecoveryPublished April 14, 2009
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Oftentimes battered women leave abusers only to find out that they are in an abusive relationship with their own divorce lawyer. And unfortunately, many spend as long awakening to this reality as they did admitting the abuse they endured by their former intimate partner.

Here are some seduction strategies that divorce atto
eys use with battered women. You will benefit by knowing these strategies if you are looking for legal representation or if you feel that your atto
ey is not serving your best interest.

1) Tell you exactly what you want to hear, before the retainer is paid. Yes, you heard me. He/she will promise you the moon, just like the prince charming that you are divorcing.

2) Isolate you from all other sources of support outside of his/her influence and control. Counsel will directly, or indirectly, insist that you not utilize any professional resources that he/she cannot influence, manipulate and ultimately control.

3) Groom a relationship atmosphere of dominance and dependency. Your counsel will require that you are “contained,” which is a polite word for following his/her direction even when it fails to support a favorable outcome for your case.

Your dependency is a natural outcome of your lawyer isolating and dominating you. Once you have become accustomed to having no other sources of professional support AND expect counsel to see your case through in a way that serves his/her original promise, then the domination is established.

Now this doesn’t mean that all divorce atto
eys operate in this fashion. There are some diamonds in the rough. And your job is to find them, and to see those seducing you to their advantage as just another opportunity for you to be abused.

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If you are a domestic abuse survivor, you may want to know more about Legal Domestic Abuse. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps people recognize, end and heal from partner and legal abuse. Copyright 2009 Jeanne King. Ph.D.PreventAbusiveRelationships.com/legal_domestic_abuse.php

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