There are so many times in life where we disagree with what someone says or does. We believe they are doing things that will hurt themselves or hurt others. We believe they are making bad decisions and are going down the wrong direction in life. We believe they are taking wrong turns and heading down a path of bad choices and mistakes which could lead to regrets later on in their lives.

Proverbs 11:12-13 “It is foolish to belittle one’s neighbor; a sensible person keeps quiet. A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.”

It is so easy to just talk about others and their problems. It is so easy to just sit back and let things happen to others who are taking the wrong direction in life. It is so easy to feel as if the decisions we make are better than theirs and we know all the answers. However, we don’t know all the answers. We don’t always know what is best for them.

No matter how we feel we should not take it upon ourselves to talk about them with others. We should not talk about them in a way that is judgmental or condescending. We should not talk to others about what these people are doing and spread the news around in such a way where other people , who were not even aware of what was going on, take on the same attitudes as we have about them.

Instead of talking about the other person and the actions they are taking, we should show love. We should pray and ask God what action He wants us to take toward that other person. We should go to them accepting them for who they are just as God accepts us for who we are. We should seek to understand the decisions they have made while we pray and trust in God to help them and to help us know what to say and do so we can help them as well.

God knows everyone better than we do. He knew them before they were born. He knows all about their past, present and future. God put us in their lives for a reason. He doesn’t want those of us who are strong and trust in Him to be weak when it comes to helping others. God put them in our lives for a reason. We are to set the example by showing love, providing gentle direction and helping them as they go through the struggles in their lives.

When we look at what others are doing and feel like they are not making the best decisions in life, we need to go to God rather than spreading the news about them to everyone else. When we go to God and ask Him how we can help them and be a friend to them, He will give us the answers we need. Only God knows why people do what they do. Only we can make a difference to help our friends when they are in need.

Galatians 5:14-15 “For the whole law can be summed up in this one command: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ But if you are always biting and devouring one another, watch out! Beware of destroying one another.”

Author's Bio: 

Frances Lucas has lived in the Birmingham, Alabama area for the past 40 years. She is a firm believer in leading by example and what she shares comes from her experience in life having to set her own goals and make things happen in her life…not depending on anyone else. She can help you, your team members and your employees to realize their purpose in life, learn their strengths and begin to develop their strengths.

She attended Corporate Coach University where she obtained an Advanced Certified Corporate Coach degree. Frances also has a bachelor‘s degree in Business Management and a masters in Human Resources. She has facilitated classes for large and small groups, created and organized self-improvement and employee development programs, classes, and work books. She enjoys coaching others one-on-one or in groups. Frances is a professional discipleship coach certified through Blueprint for Life Institute and is dedicating her life to helping others find their God-given purpose in life.

She has found her passion in life and wants to share her passion by helping others find theirs!

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