Mutuality is the basis for a good relationship.
You don't enter any relationship focused on what you will accomplish as an individual. This is a bonding and sharing of experiences and memories. Years from now the substance of your relationship will have little value if your memories and feelings are linked to entirely different images and events.
If you start from a position where you attempt to segregate parts of your lifestyle eventually rigid boundaries will encrust the components of the relationship and things will, get rough.
Look for mutual interests and activities. Give your partner what they need first and want second, but be determined to get back in return and don't be afraid to ask for your satisfaction. If you continually fail to get what you need and want the desire and energy to support the needs and wants of others will diminish and a gap forms.
Find or create things to do together.
Schedule some quality time together not hollow room conversation.
Individuality is the sanity of the relationship.
If you don't want to feel smothered and relegated to the support role most of the time maintain your sense of individuality and self-sufficiency. There will be times when you will want to do things on your own and your partner will too. This is natural for humans and to go against this need places great stress on the individual.
People need time with their own thoughts. This enhances the time spent with someone else because it provides the body and mind a chance to diffuse and recharge. Remember that you get your free time when you provide free time for your partner. There is a common sense element to what we do apart, but if you clamp down on your partner's time apart the natural reaction will be one of survival where the person becomes protective and demanding.
Take some quiet time or go out visiting with friends.
Remember to share that freedom equally at home.
Spontaneity is the spice of life.
Well, you do have a tight schedule and lots of things to get completed each day, but there are those selective times when a little diversion wouldn't hurt. Don't get so caught up living that you have little time for the exciting moments of life. Remember that a good mix of spice is usually much better than too much.
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