The idea of falling in love itself seems so soothing that we don’t even wait for our heart to respond, we just conclude that we have fallen in love with someone.
Now a days people fall in and out of love so easily as if it’s a part of our lifestyle. There were days when love was meant forever. Due to this transition in the logical thinking of people there are more heartbreaks and breakups than celebrations of falling in love. This idea of falling in love pleases us so much that we forget to feel the real essence of loving someone.
When we look at the old couples we imagine how did they manage to survive together happily in love with each other all those years. But every love has its secret due to which it blossoms.
Before falling in love with someone else you need to learn how to love yourself. Yes, this might seems a bit selfish but the fact is if you don’t find yourself worth loving then how someone else will find love in you. This is not a competition where you must fall in love with someone before others find love for themselves. Once you start searching love within yourself then love will automatically find you. It’s a little secret to love but this will help you not just in falling in love but also to remain in love forever.
This is a fatal mistake that most of the individuals do they just keep loving the outer world and forget the most important relation, the relation with themselves if you can’t fulfill commitments with your own heart then there cannot be any person who can catch your attention for a lifetime.
Just imagine how it feels when you know that someone loves you unconditionally and to know that that someone will never leave your side no matter what. This feeling can be permanent only when we fall in love with ourselves. If you commit to yourself then there cannot be any betrayal. We often tend to ignore ourself for the sake of others.
Have you ever noticed that every great personality always emphasis on the fact that if you want to do something great then look within yourself and find out that one string your heart always linger upon. It means your heart will take you to the most sacred territory of your thoughts. We love from our heart, we worship from our heart, we maintain relations from our heart. So when someone breaks it we create a bubble around ourself so that no one else can enter our space and make us suffer again. But if we realize our own worth, it would be difficult for anyone to make you settle for less. You would want to fly and feel the wind on your face without the fear of getting hit because you know that you can fly.
When you imagine falling in love with someone you feel those butterflies and your day dreaming takes you to another world. But when you realize that you love yourself and that is worth then it becomes so easy to breathe and achieve the peace within yourself, those butterflies gives a feeling of settlement and a feeling of belongingness.
Before making a promise to others make a promise to yourself of never hurting your own self respect for others and a promise to always love yourself. Forgive yourself once more the way you will forgive your loved one. Pamper yourself to the extent that you feel like the king. Make others laugh but don’t forget to laugh your heart out. Cry when you need to but once you stop crying wipe away those tears with a promise to yourself to find a reason to smile again.
That’s the only little secret to love.

Author's Bio: 

Parinita is a Freelance writer