Are You Living Your Life the Way you want!

When I became a teenager, heading toward Adult life I had some very definite ideas of how I wanted to live my life. I wanted to marry someone that I truly loved and who loved me, as well as like me: I wanted to do something with my life that was meaningful and had a greater purpose. So at 18 years of age, I run away from home to begin this life.

Now 43 years later, I have a loving husband and family, whilst enjoying a very rewarding career.

For each of us we come into the world, this little bundle of joy. However what emerges from this moment is very different for each of us. During our journey from this moment to where we are now many experiences and information is collected within our very essence, our brain and our soul.

This is all recorded and stored along the way within our brain. This will become the very foundation of us building our lives. What kind of life we will go on to build will go on to the decisions we make from our experiences. For example we may well have some very bad experiences, now whether allow these to be our core beliefs as to how life will be or whether we decide that we do not want our life to be based on these experiences, but throughout the good or happier experiences we have experienced we decide these are what we want to build our life upon. At no matter if our desire for a good life for ourselves will out way any bad or painful experiences.

So it is not necessarily our experiences that will determine our adult life, it is our determination of what we want to do with those experiences. That why the saying – “Out of the Bad we can make Good”.

Our unique brain structuring is our sub conscious mind, many of us as children may well remember the essence of day dreaming. This can be a protective mechanism for the brain to allow our thought processes to heal or ignore bad things that are happening.

Information enters your brain through a portal known as the reticular activating system. This is located in your brain stem. It contributes to things such as control of sleep, walking, what sex you are, breathing, eating and most importantly it controls consciousness. Your reticular activating system filters incoming information, also affecting what you pay attention to, effectively sorting what is important from what is not important. To what you pay attention to, it is also linked to your belief system which is the framework of your subconscious.

We are uniquely born already with an internal set of programmed beliefs: allowing us to know what is right from wrong, what is good from bad. So this reticular activating system will work diligently to prevent your subconscious mind from seeing anything that does not align with your internal belief system.

So what happens when these set of beliefs don’t align with our experiences. This becomes problematic for us, making it difficult to make positive decisions that are going to give us a good outcome. Our beliefs become limited and these are the beliefs, thoughts or feelings that we just wish would go away. Looking at life from our perspective we believe that successful life for us isn’t easy.

Watching others from our perspective we believe that because they are successful, there life must be so much easier.

Most of us have been programmed on a condition based 5 sensory thinking. That relies on stimuli externally that this in turn determines our reality, allowing the physical world to be our key informant. This sets our thinking into focusing on our life as a series of conditions or circumstances. We when think in this way we continue to reinforce patterns of negative activities and behaviours. This becoming our default program. However we have our 5 senses, these include our imagination, intuition, our desires, our dreams and our power of perception. If we design our programming to use these 5 senses of our inner self that expands our thinking beyond us allowing us to focus on our desired results this is what will help us to overcome even this worst of hurdles and pain in our lives.

So the most important exercise I could tell you to start with is to believe in the power that is inside of you, to be and become whatever you want for your life, no matter what your past experiences have been.

Now I am not going to say this is going to be easy, it takes a lot of work physically, mentally and spiritually just believing that what I am telling you is true.

There is a definite parallel to mental fitness and physical fitness so engaging in an exercise program even something as easy as a daily walk for 30 – 60 minutes a day will improve your emotions, how you think and how you see the world.

Secondly: Manage the information that you allow to be absorbed by your brain. If you want to become a more positive, loving and kind person. Then you need to read such books, watch movies that are about love and kindness. You need to limit what you watch on T.V, reading of newspapers and watching the daily news.

Remembering that every minute of every day is the chance for you to change to being, doing and communicating the way in which you want to that makes you feel peaceful, happy and alive.

Focus and concentrate on things that are going to make you feel good and that are good for you long term, not in the short term. As many things that bring short term gratification, will bring you long term grief.

Understand that it always a good idea to have a person whom you are responsible to for becoming the person you want to become. This can be a counsellor, life coach, partner or friend. Sometimes we need more than one person and that is OK.

The important thing to remember is not to become high maintenance to others, they can only help to the degree that we want to change. We have the key to our own successful life.


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Empowering You to Optimal Health Julie Doherty N.D

Author's Bio: 

Hi I’m Julie,

Your Health & Lifestyle Coach Specialist
(Doctor of Naturopathic Medicine)

I learnt very early in my life that there was much more to health than meets the eye

To achieve “Optimal Health” is about taking control of every aspect of YOU and YOUR LIFE:

That “Optimal Health” is only possible when we understand the unity of our mind, emotions connections to our physical body then our soul that inner voice that knows what is good and not good for us: Not to aim for Perfection but for Connection.

I love to work with people who dedicated who want to succeed in all areas of their life with the understanding that "Health is the very foundation for this to be possible"

So for over 26 years, I have worked with thousands of people in clinical practice prescribing herbal & homoeopathic remedies: implementing dietary changes so as to accommodate the best nutrition and life balance possible:Group and individual Health & Lifestyle Coaching to achieve the Happiest, Healthiest and Most Successful Life Possible.

My Professional Qualifications include Diplomas in Naturopathic, Herbal: Homoeopathic & Nutritional Medicine: Remedial & Therapeutic Massage Therapy: Body Mind Balancing Cognitive Counselling, Life Coaching & Massage: & Natural Beauty:

1.I love to watch movies that are based on true life stories with all the aspects of Life, love, romance, challenges and best of all happy endings.
2.I am born and bred Australian, South Australian with an English, German and Italian background
3.I didn’t commence my formulative studies until I was 28 years of age
4.I am so totally in Love with my husband of now 42 years
5.My family is the most important aspect of my life
6.I am totally passionate and focused on Health and Aging Well.
7.I love Healthy, Fresh food and Dining out
8.I try to go without drinking wine, but I have to admit that when we go out for dinner or have friends over, I do enjoy the odd glass or two of Savion Blanc
9.I love my early morning walks, just seeing the sun come up and the birds singing is just AWESOME
10.I want to live overseas for three months
11.I am obsessed with self-development books and CD’s
12.I love writing, sharing all the great things about life
13.I love hearing my clients life stories and sharing mine
14.I am living proof that by taking charge of your life will allow you to follow your passions, give you the opportunity of to age with great health and vitality.

Julie Doherty N.D
Accredited Member of the Australian Traditional Medicine Society