Live with it and like it, live with it and hate it or leave it! Changing another is not an option.
Written by Sharon A Winningham, CRLC
There is never a fourth choice.
People have the right to choose what they say and do. We do not get to control the choices of another person—even when we know our way is better—and they don’t control our choices. A relationship is the natural result of the independent choices we make. If we are unhappy with a relationship, we have three options: 1) Live with it and like it, 2) Live with it and hate it, 3) Leave it. Controlling the other person violates their right to the Law of Choice. Changing the other person is not a choice.
Trying to change someone is a waste of time. The very thought of changing someone is saying that they are not good enough as they are, and it is soaked with judgment and disapproval. That is not a thought of appreciation or love, and those thoughts will only bring separation between you and that person.
You must look for the good in people to have more of it appear. As you look only for the good things in a person, you will be amazed at what your new focus reveals.
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Sharon A Winningham, Certified Real Love Coach
www.sharonawinningham.com
I am a Religious Scientist, Mom, Seminar Speaker, Teacher, Realtor, Salsa dancer and Real "lover". It's all about Real Love.
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