In this article I want to ruminate around the power of our thoughts, as well as the words we use, to create our reality, which is what the Law of Attraction is about. It doesn't matter it we believe in it, or not, we are all living the Law of Attraction.

A quick search on the Internet will give you access to all kinds of material on the Law of Attraction, so why am I writing about it? Personally, I cannot claim that I have mastered using the principles of the Law of Attraction in my own life, and from the number of articles and explanatory material out there, it would seem that others are having difficulty in achieving mastery as well.

This problem, in my opinion, is connected to what I have been writing about, which is how we have all been Programmed and Indoctrinated in ways to bring about negative consequences in our lives. One of my main ideas as to why this is so has to do with believing that only that which is physical, which includes our actions, has any significance. We have been conditioned all of our lives to discount the idea that words are anything but just words.

Also, in general, few can imagine anyone attracting negativity into their lives; "shit just happens," right? It may help to understand this Law, if one can bring oneself to understand that, willy-nilly, we are all living the Law of Attraction.

I remember when the book The Secret was on the best seller list, a popular speaker and writer of business articles, in an article disparaged that very idea and the book in general. It wasn't long after that article was published, he was writing his last article, saying that the newspaper had decided to discontinue it for economic reasons. In that last article, he reported having had fleeting thoughts about the possibility his column would be discontinued, and wondering if those thoughts had had something to do with its being canceled. It is easy to say, and think, that to believe that such fleeting thoughts could have had such a result is foolish, unless something similar has happened in one's own life.

Nonetheless, just such a small passing thought, or idea, can undermine our efforts under the workings of the Law of Attractions. While I expect most people have experienced how words have the ability to hurt, even so, how many people think before they speak? Also, how many have considered seriously that thoughts are also words? Few people, other than those who have attempted to practice, and do practice, meditation are even aware of the thoughts that run through their minds continually?

In previous articles, I have written about Belief Systems, and the importance of discovering what you believe, and how you came to have the Beliefs you have through early Programming and subsequent Indoctrination, culminating for many in adopting Scientific Thinking as the ultimate in rationality. As I have written, our Programmed/Indoctrinated Beliefs influence everything in our lives--not just how we live, but also how we die--the words we use and the thoughts that run through our minds are also shaped by them.

It is hard enough to convince people that, what they consider a basic part of themselves--what they believe--has been Programmed and Indoctrinated into them, but that those Beliefs, along with their wispy thoughts, can affect what happens in their daily lives.

As an example as to how our fleeting thoughts can affect our lives, many years ago I read a book called, as I recall, The First Five Seconds. The underlying propositions of this book were that: 1) we all communicate with each other non-verbally all the time; 2) we are aware of what others are thinking about us, especially when we are in the presence of that person, and, in this context, particularly when we meet, and 3) the first five seconds is the most important period in which to influence what non-verbal communication takes place.

It is proposed in this book that we can change any potential relationship with new individuals by changing our usual mental behavior in such situations. The usual thoughts of most individuals, in these situations, to be frank, consists primarily of uncontrolled personal judgments from first impressions. If our first impressions are overwhelmingly positive, they may make us tongue-tied; something not to be desired. Unfortunately, in most cases, the first thoughts will probably include some negatives--generally, the person's weight and other personal observations regarding their physical appearance, because that is primarily what crosses most individual's minds when meeting someone new.

The idea presented in this book, is to take control of one's thoughts in these first few seconds, or fractions thereof, before anyone says anything. One does this by imposing one's will on that wild beast, the mind. One must intend to instantly look for some positive aspect about that new person and focus strongly on that--"what a nice tie," "great color," "nice smile"--you get the idea. The point is, you must choose something that is real; this cannot be a phony, "like"--that person will know if you are being insincere--it must be honest.

As we all are living the Law of Attraction, whether we, "believe in it," or not, this information needs to be taken seriously; I see it as a, Gift For Our Time. Unfortunately, The Law of Attraction is a double edged sword as it has to do with how we bring both positive and negative experiences into our lives. As few intentionally wish to bring negative experiences into their lives, the basic underlying principle of using the Law of Attraction has to be to accentuate the positive, to bring about positive changes in one's life. This is not something that can be faked, it must be lived. One of the main keys to how we, personally, are doing this is our non-verbal communications--spoken, unspoken and physical. In order to begin to accomplish this is to, firstly, make an effort to become aware of one's passing thoughts--in other words, to make a study of one's mental activity.

Another major component of working with the Law of Attraction, is to be focused, as much as possible, in the present. As to becoming focused in the present, I, personally, have been greatly influenced by my training in, and the practice of, Gestalt Therapy and its principle of, "Be Here, Now" (Gestalt Therapy is/was the teachings of Fritz Perls and his wife Laura, the founders, in the 1940s and 50s, that the average person's mental activity has to do with the past and the future, rarely the present; by staying in the present an individual can eliminate many of their perceived problems.)

Unless one learns how to be aware of one's thoughts, and to begin to change their focus, little progress can be made in changing one's life. When one's thoughts are focused on the past, they usually take the forms of anger, guilt, blame, regrets, etc., etc., when focusing on the future they frequently take the form of worrying, fantasizing, etc., etc. The term, "Be Here, Now" means to remain focused on the present moment; if one notices that their thoughts are on the past or future, just saying, "Be Here, Now," can refocus one's attention.

Those who have made a study of non-verbal communications have found that it is practically impossible to not communicate honestly with our bodies non-verbally. Occasionally, verbally as well--you may be familiar with the term, "Freudian Slip," words slipping out of our mouths unintentionally speaking truth. Few individuals, however, have educated themselves as to such signals; most, in any case, are not focused enough in the present to pick-up on such revealing information. Research has also shown that the words we say, themselves, carry only about seven percent of the information being broadcast, our general Programming is to ignore the remaining 93 percent. Going back to the book, The First Five Seconds, consider the implication that many, if not most of us, despite our Indoctrination, are registering those non-verbal communications.

In making a study of oneself a priority, keeping a Journal is one way to start, beginning meditation can help one to become aware of one's thoughts, and/or beginning a log of what one believes, and figuring out how you came to believe whatever you believe, will help in such an endeavor.

Author's Bio: 

My self-educational background has been in learning, and writing about, why people do what they do. My educational background includes the study of established Belief Systems in the field of Psychology, ranging from Freudian theory through Abraham Maslow's work on fully-functioning individuals, as well as Art. My BA is in Human Services, and my Masters is in Art Therapy--MA-AT.

In the 1970's I wrote a manuscript, (unpublished) called: You in the Process of Becoming; A Guide to the Self. In it I outlined a systems approach to understanding human behavioral dis-functioning. My current writing and thinking is an outgrowth of the understanding that, if an individual wishes to be able to think, "critically," i.e., originally, clearly and without contamination from Consensus Belief Systems, it is essential for that individual to thoroughly understand their own underlying Belief System.

This approach can be used in understanding an individual's problems in dealing with everyday situations and problems in relationships. In discovering how one's underlying beliefs shape personal behavior, and examining where those beliefs came from, can do much to change the resultant behavior.

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