Do you ever look at your child, I mean really look at him or her and think to yourself, “Wow, here is an amazing small human being in my care”? Of course you do, you’re a parent.

I have been given the amazing responsibility to care for these human beings to the best of my ability for at least 18 years and, and if I’ve done my job well, they will head off and live their lives, being responsible for their own accomplishments and challenges.

Sounds dreamy right? Well, that is my ideal parenting thought and the truth is I have a lot of thoughts about whether or not I am doing the right thing for my kids much of the time. Divorce was not part of my dreamy plan when I had children, nor was the loss of their father when they were 9 and 12. None of that is what I thought would happen. Never in my worst nightmare would I have thought my children would have to deal with the loss of their father at such a young age. It was horrible.

The one thing I remember much of the time through the struggle of parenting actually came from a business attorney that I worked with during my divorce; he said that he and his wife had gone through a divorce and his kids were grown and doing fine….”they just need to know they are loved.” I believed him.

This doesn’t mean that they don’t feel the loss of divorced parents, especially when we didn’t behave very maturely through the process, and this doesn’t mean they don’t feel the huge loss of not having their Dad with them – it does, however, mean that filling that loss with love can create a healthy healing for them.

Filling them with love can keep them from seeking it outwardly through drugs, alcohol, bad relationships, food etc. It’s not guaranteed but if they know they are loved they don’t have to try to fill that space with something else. They will KNOW they are enough. If they know there are enough, that is enough for me.

So next time you look at your child, I mean really look at your child, know it is your love they want and you get the awesome privilege of giving it to them!!

Author's Bio: 

Are you looking for YOUR answers? If you’re like me, you are on the journey of a lifetime. Perhaps you have been on this journey a short time, maybe you have been searching your entire life. Either way, it can be exciting, energizing, painful, slow and amazing but when you are finding YOU – it makes sense that it be an adventure. It can all be true.

As an Ordained Ministerial Counselor I am trained to guide you to your answers, to support you in your awareness of joy and pain, to be on the other side to welcome you to the next level of your spiritual awakening. I am committed to be a graceful companion as you navigate your self- discovery. Nothing is more humbling or sacred, for me, than to be trusted with joining you on your journey.

I am Ordained through Pathways of Light Spiritual College. I offer Accessing Inner Wisdom Counseling, a gentle guided process to discovery given to Pathways of Light by Spirit. Groups are always forming for my 8-week Spiritual Awakening Group and my 8-week Healing Inner Child Group.

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