All of us love to be loved and most of us appreciate the opportunity to share our love with others. People have been using Feng Shui for centuries to encourage stable and loving partnerships in their lives, induce harmonious family relationships and reduce conflict in the workplace. Many people also gain insight and remediation for relationship difficulties like unrequited love, patterns of abuse and dysfunctional relationships between siblings or with parents which can deeply affect us. Sometimes just in knowing why this is happening to us can bring about positive changes in behaviour to improve our lives.

Feng Shui is about manipulating energy in the spaces we use daily to support us in all aspects of life. Those who are sensitive to their environment innately know how best to use their spaces, however, many people especially those experiencing difficulties in life become de-sensitised to their environment and wellbeing and need assistance.

Traditional Feng Shui uses our birth date, manipulation of our environment and unseen Flying Star energy to manage life. Your Feng Shui practitioner can create a Flying Star energy grid of your home revealing unseen energy that can be supportive of relationships or creating obstacles for you in your relationships. Just like our energy is determined by the date we were born, a building’s energy is determined by the year it was completed built - the energy of our home being influenced by geomagnetic energy from the earth, its tilt and orbit around the sun. The energy grid (Flying Stars) for your home is also dependent on the front facing Compass direction of your home (which is not always the same direction as your front door).

For love and relationships, good bedroom Feng Shui is essential. Our bedroom is a place for rest, intimacy and relaxation. For many of us the bedroom is the only private space in the home. Our bedroom is a space where our bodies recover, repair and rejuvenate so our bedrooms should allow us to feel safe, secure and provide privacy. During sleep our liver can rest, our mind can unwind our muscles can relax and we are reenergised. If our bedroom does not support us in these passive pursuits, our health and relationships suffer. How many of us complain of insomnia, waking up feeling tired instead of refreshed or going home with multiple people – never finding a stable partner?

At this current time your Traditional Feng Shui consultant will aim to ensure the owners of the home are sleeping in a bedroom with flying star energy 8 or 9 as this represents good harmony in relationships and health. For a woman wanting to find a stable and lasting partnership with a man, it is best to sleep in a room with mountain star 8, while a man wanting to find a stable and lasting partnership with a woman would best sleep in a room with mountain star 9. If you are in conflict with your spouse and find anger and frustration a constant in your relationship then you could be sleeping in a room with mountain star 3 and would need to use remedies to diffuse. There are 9 energy classifications in total with different consequences and to know what energy star you are sleeping in and whether it is causing you obstacles or not you need to have a Flying Star energy grid completed for your home. You can learn this from books, take courses or hire a traditional Feng Shui consultant.

Encouraging good Feng Shui in your bedroom can assist:

.: men and women trying to find a stable partner
.: couples in conflict or having a challenging time with intimacy and need to reconnect
.: family members in conflict with each other
.: family members experiencing health issues
.: couples trying to fall pregnant
To encourage loving and lasting relationships try these simple tips to make it feel more comfortable and inviting:

.: use soft, neutral and pastel colours for walls, bedding and decor
.: attach a bedhead and place your bed against a solid wall to symbolise supportive relationships
.: avoid mirrors in the bedroom, especially not reflecting the bed it gives a feeling of intrusion in a room meant for privacy
.: place the bed adjacent to the door to avert active energy influencing and disturbing your rest and intimacy and encourage tenderness. Avoid placing the bed head directly in line with the door especially if at the end of a long corridor, this will provide too much yang energy coming at your head and disturbing your sleep
.: create mood lighting. Particularly if you are sleeping in a good energy sector you would encourage this with fire – lighting and candles
.: avoid air conditioners directly above the bed or placing a Television in the bedroom that will make the room active and detract from the peacefulness of the room. Televisions distract couples from connecting and can cause distance
.: if your home has exposed beams, avoid placing beds or seats underneath them as it can cause a feeling of restriction and pressure for couples that can compound and bring daily issues into the bedroom potentially starting conflict
.: allow sunlight through during the day, but have window coverings for night time to induce a good night’s rest
.: ensure furniture and objects in your room have no hidden meanings to both you and your partner. Analyse pieces of furniture particularly if they are antiques passed down from relations that you did not get along with or carry residual energy from previous romantic relationships – like your mattress. Remove them from the room and feel the difference. Also be considerate if you are sharing this space with another e.g. if you have a photograph of your parents in the room but your partner does not get along with them, perhaps replace the photo with one of you and your spouse and place the one of your parents in a different room
.: introduce symbols of love reflecting togetherness and strength . Traditionally animals like mandarin ducks or koi in pairs are used, however, you may have your own special symbols that mean more to you.

These practical and common sense Feng Shui tips relate to the physical placement of furniture and decor. While these changes will provide relief, if the unseen energy (flying star) in your bedroom is not conducive to harmonious loving relationships, then obstacles will still present. This is where an experienced Traditional
Feng Shui practitioner will help your know exactly what energy is present and how to assist in your goals.

Author's Bio: 

Mariko Fisher, is the Principal of FengShui by Sakura. Mariko embraces both eastern and western cultures and has been trained by two internationally renowned Feng Shui Masters - Grand Master Raymond Lo of Hong Kong and Master Juliana Abram of Perth. Mariko is certified in Feng Shui (Form School and Compass Flying Star School) and Chinese Astrology (the Four Pillars of Destiny and the I-Ching). Together these skills form a holistic tool kit for assessing your needs with a private or commercial focus and provide custom advice to enrich your life and general wellbeing.

Mariko Fisher completed her schooling in Sydney, Australia. Graduating from James Ruse Agricultural High School in 1990, Mariko spent a year working and traveling in Japan (her birth place) before returning to Sydney to complete her Bachelor of Business at the University of Technology Sydney (UTS). While studying her degree in International Business, Mariko followed her passion for the water to become a PADI Scuba Diving and Medic First Aid Instructor. Mariko continued part time in the diving industry for many years, but on graduation from university has spent the past 15 years in Corporate Business and IT consulting for top tier Financial Services and Wealth Management Corporations globally. Mariko’s career with Andersen Consulting (now Accenture) has given her astute business and people management skills as well as competent communication and presentation abilities. Gaining interest in Eastern philosophies and design from a young age, it was when building her own home that Mariko became passionate with Feng Shui and decided to pursue it as an ongoing study and career.

Having left her corporate career to concentrate and look after her growing young family, Mariko wanted to be trained by the best and after many long hours of research, enrolled and completed the suite of courses offered in Grand Master Raymond Lo’s International School for Feng Shui & Destiny. Mariko has attained Grand Master Lo’s Diploma in Feng Shui and Destiny and participates in yearly reviews around South East Asia. This coupled with her growing practice and clientele gives confidence and support to those searching for a genuine Feng Shui consultant. Mariko treats every home and business like it is her own and strives to obtain the best outcomes possible for her clients.

FengShui by Sakura was established to bring Feng Shui into Western households and businesses. Mariko is dedicated to her life long pursuit to master Feng Shui and fuses the ancient eastern art of Feng Shui with the western desire to achieve prosperity, harmony and wellbeing in everyday living. Mariko’s practice not only offers consultations, but organises certified courses, 1 day Immersion Workshops and has an online store that provides for your Feng Shui gift and specialty product needs. All Feng Shui products carrying symbolism and meaning that are a break away from the consumerism of today’s lifestyle.

In practice, FengShui by Sakura applies traditional and genuine principles of Feng Shui to assist families, businesses and singles with a wide range of needs including: Feng Shui for health, relationships, financial stability and gain, career prospects, direction in life and much more.

FengSui by Sakura works with individuals, families and a range of businesses—from small retail owners to Australian based companies and major global corporations providing personalised service with modern and practical Feng Shui recommendations. Whether you are seeking Feng Shui for residential or commercial purposes, we ensure your assessment is tailored to your circumstances and needs. Every consultation is performed on site. We will assist you in gaining a fundamental understanding of authentic Feng Shui principles and explain how they have been applied to your home or business. FengShui by Sakura is committed to delivering professional consultations and reports with integrity and confidentiality.