Manifesting has become a popular buzzword within the metaphysical community and with “The Secret” being so popular, it has made its way into more of the mainstream. What does it mean to you? Making your dream a reality? Yes, absolutely. But, how – that’s the question. Lots of people would like to find the answer.

We aren’t all born knowing exactly how to achieve results in our lives. We do have the ability, however, to consider how we want our lives to look, the lifestyle we wish to live, the amount of money we bring into our lives and the exact outcomes we wish to accomplish.

What I’m going to tell you right now is a big secret of successful people. Successful people know that if they make a very specific request of what some call the Universe, the Universe will respond with the “how to” information. It will do this by placing the right people, circumstances or information into our view and it will be up to us to receive that information.

How do you make such a request? You can start by saying (out loud): “Today I am very powerful and deliberate in my requests for help in manifesting and bringing into reality whatever I want in my life. “ Then state what it is you want. Be specific. Don’t forget to feel the passion you have for the thing you want, as you’re stating your desire. Why should the universe give you something you’re not really sure you want?

Then, end your communication with the universe by releasing your request. If you write a letter, put it in an envelope, put a stamp on it and then never put it in the mailbox, it will never be received. What good is that? Releasing your desire, asking for “this or better, for the greater good of all” (or words to that effect), and then leaving it up to the universe to take care of how your wish is delivered, is the key to this kind of manifestation.

Whatever you do, don’t dictate to the universe how you want your dream dispensed to you. That would be, after a fashion, tying the hands of Santa Claus. Let the universe worry about how something is provided to you. It knows best.

The truth is you and I have a very limited knowledge of “how” things are actually done. If it was completely left up to us to figure it out, we would not be learning new methods, but instead having to draw upon our own limited experiences, which could make success take a very long time.

For this reason, I leave my ego at the door and make specific requests of the Universe often. Not all my requests are fulfilled, and I have come to understand, as I hope you will too, that when my requests are unanswered, it is always for a reason that has my best interests in mind.

So how does it work, in detail? There are basically six steps to manifesting what you want:

Step 1. Make a decision to have what you want, when you want it.

This is deceptively simple. It would seem that making the decision to have whatever you want would be easy, but most people are tentative when it comes to being specific. People say things like “It would be nice if…” and “We’ll see what happens when….” That won’t work. First, you must state that “I am in the process of…” or “I will be” when making a decision. Make sure you’re clear on when you will receive the results. You must be resolute, and allow no one (not even yourself) to undermine your confidence in your decision.

So, what do you want? Start thinking and practicing now. Here are a couple of practice sentences to get you started.

I am in the process of becoming a millionaire by the time I am 50.

I will be living a life of personal and financial freedom on or before my 45th birthday.

I am going to have a weeklong Italian vacation next year.

Start small. “I’m having chicken for lunch today” is a very decisive statement. “I am going on vacation in Los Angeles for a week in June” is also decisive. Once you have practiced and mastered this decisive language and know exactly what you want, you are ready to move on to step 2.

2. Be clear about the outcome.

The next step is to be extremely clear about the details of the outcome. This is done in the context of what you DO want, not what you don’t want. Practice visualizing yourself in the situation you want to create. How do you do this? Once again, the simplest way is to start small.

Think about this: when ordering a salad in a restaurant, you choose the type of lettuce, vegetables, cheese and dressing. You visualize how the salad will look when it arrives at your table. You are clear about what you want. After all, when you’re thinking about the salad, you don’t have a visual picture of a chicken sandwich in your mind, do you? Of course not! You have a visual image of the salad you wish to eat. It works the same with bigger items, like financial freedom. You must visualize the money, the bank statements, investments or just plain truckloads of money arriving into your life.

3. Detach from the process.

One thing that holds many people back is not knowing “how” to do something. Forget it. The “how to do it” instructions will appear after you have clearly defined what you want.

Take the example of ordering the salad. After you order, you don’t have to worry about how the salad will take shape. Every restaurant prepares salad differently, but the outcome is the same – it arrives at your table ready to eat. It is the same with all other events in your life.

4. Expect that it will happen.

Just as you expect the salad to arrive at your table ready to eat, you can do the same with other things in your life.

Once you are decisive and clear about what you want and not trying to control the process, set an expectation that what you want will in fact appear. It may not appear in the way you thought or at the precise time. In fact, it may not appear at all! Possibilities you thought were a sure thing may disappear. You may even experience frustration, anxiety or impatience trying to control the outcome. Ask yourself “What lesson could I learn from this experience?” and turn it into a personal growth opportunity.

5. Be Open To Possibility

As I mentioned in the last step, the path to the outcome may (and probably will) show up in ways you never imagined before. It is your job to explore possibility. Suspend judgment of how things should be done based on your past experiences and ask yourself “Is the situation, person or resource that is in front of me supposed to help me on my journey?” “If so, how?” When you ask the question, you will be given the answers – one step at a time.

6. Practice Gratitude.

Are you thankful for the things you have in your life right now? Do you look at your challenges as opportunities to grow or burdens that need to be eliminated? When you practice being thankful for specific events in your life, including the burdens, even when you don’t understand why they appear in your life, your ability to manifest accelerates almost to the speed of thought.

It isn’t always necessary or advisable to try to change every challenge in your life. Some are there as lessons for you. If all efforts to change something seem to be ineffective, try asking, “How does this situation benefit me?” It is not only a much more positive way to approach a challenge, but a much more insightful one as well. Many times, the answer at the moment is just to trust. Say, “I don’t know, but the situation will serve a purpose in the future.” Chances are it will.

Practicing these steps means taking action, being consistent and being open to change. Getting what you want is not always easy. Challenges occur. Emotions, other people’s negative views and comments set you back. But in the end, it all comes back down to your choice. Choose to get what you want, believe that your strong will can contribute to it manifesting and it will happen for you.

Author's Bio: 

Stephanie Frank works with people who want to improve performance and pump up their power to profit. She is the author of the best-selling book, The Accidental Millionaire and founder of The Success IQ University, specializing in personal success, productivity and leadership education. For a FREE audio program “The 13 Vital Traits of Super Effective People, go here: