We all need something to “take the edge off”. How does that edge get on there in the first place? By life not going the way, at the pace or peace we want or expect.

We choose our tools either consciously or by abdication. By abdication I mean it’s just there so we do it or we have always done it that way, or we like the way we feel at least temporarily when we do it. All good. I’m not into good and bad but I am into effective and ineffective. There is short and long term effective. If something takes the edge off we are grateful but if like so many medical commercials on TV you are warned of the side effects, the long range effect would you still want to do what you do to release stress.

In steps meditation in all her glory, She makes us uncomfortable just speaking of her. Yet she has so many sides or external packaging’s that you can choose something that you feel comfortable with initially. I say initially because if you do commit to a meditation practice you will have many less than comfortable situations while meditating and many more that are great.

Meditation is a great source of clearing the subconscious mind. Think of going down into your basement where no one has been except to leave stuff and you get to clean it. This is your gear, your storage container and you have a chance to clean it up. Really very exciting when you think about it this way. The first few times may be really lovely or really challenging the great thing is the saying yes to the journey. The willingness to really practice something that you know you want the end result but may not love the initial process. Practicing anything or learning any new skill is always challenging and uncomfortable till it starts to become easy then I have good news for you; you will come to love it.

I had someone come to look at a rental property I have the other day and she started our meeting I mean initial words with “ I know I look really bad I’m not awake yet.” It went down hill from there. It ended with her saying over and over again, ‘I’m such a mess and you are so calm. Your calm makes me realize what a mess I am.” I said to her, “Okay now that you have had that realization the only real question is what are you going to do about this state you feel you are in.” She did not answer. Maybe she will sit with it maybe she won’t that is up to her. I just had to open the door to the possibility that she would, could ask what she would rather feel like and to allow ways to come to her to create that.

Meditation does not work in one session or maybe even 100 or 1000 yet each meditation session works. It works on your desire to be able to reclaim your life, the true essence of you to be deeply connected with that sensation that you truly know. Yes you become calm because you know that you are not the doer and yet there are many actions to take. The calmer you are the more you know which one is correct for this moment. You neither under react nor overreact. My teacher Yogi Bhajan used to yell like a crazy man. At first we were all freaked out especially if he called us in class and started in on us. Then we got to understand if you were in the room the message was for you he just chose someone who could handle the blast. I started this exercise that just came to me of sitting in his heart when he would go into yelling mode and you know what it was totally calm and serene in there not at all like the gale force winds that were whipping around outside.

I learned that what goes on in the inside is not what is happening on the outside of most situations. You all know this. You act one way and feel something totally else yet that is not what was happening with him. He was acting in a way to be effective and blow a situation apart but he was not emotionally involved with the situation at all. That is one of the many perks of a meditative mind. You won’t lose you energy to all the situations of life.
When you get emotionally engaged in a situation you lose so much energy spinning it around. It doesn’t matter if it is anger, jealousy, fear, guilt you name it you give yourself to that feeling and the story that goes with it and you are off and running with the lose of energy. Afterwards we say, “I feel drained.” We think it is the situation but truly it is our reaction to the situation.

So how to not lose our energy or recover it quickly? Try one of these for regaining your energy http://ping.fm/dLT8O or this one http://ping.fm/q4Sve An easy meditation if there is such a thing give yourself 11 consecutive minutes minimum for 40 or 90 or 120 consecutive days or the rest of your life depending on how serious you are. This one is easy Sit in an easy sitting position for you with spine straight and On the Exhale chant MAAAAA for as long as you can and then inhale deeply down to your toes and do it again for at least 11 minutes. Then take a couple of deep breaths and check in and see how you feel.

You are now officially meditating. Fall in love it helps the experience become deeper.

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