Missing An Ex? Get Your Ex Back By Playing It Cool!

Did your ex recently walk out on you? Are you feeling stunned and broken-hearted? If you are you most likely want to try and get your ex back. Unfortunately most of us go about it the wrong way. We totally lose our cool and start doing crazy things. We do things born of desperation and not having a clue what we should be doing.nnEven if you have been acting a bit crazy, it's not too late to turn things around. You are either calling or text messaging your ex constantly. Leaving messages and calling back when they don't call you right away. You might be trying to "bump" into them constantly and you keep asking their friends and family to help you win them back.nnYou just want a chance to explain how you feel to your ex. It's pretty normal to feel this way. You yearn to have a heart to heart with your ex and make them understand just how much you love them. You are trying to convince yourself that if they really and truly understood how much they mean to you that they would take you back.nnExplanations usually turn into begging or pleading. Unfortunately these conversations are usually very emotional. They end up with you sounding like you're pleading with them, which is quite a turn-off. They wanted time away so the worst thing you can do is try to cling to them.nnUnfortunately if you are doing some or all of those things that you are most definitely NOT playing it cool. Just the opposite, in fact. You come across as weak and desperate. While your ex may feel a bit guilty, that usually turns into annoyance. If they are annoyed with you they are definitely not feeling attracted to you. Since attraction is something you want them to feel, you need to show them someone who is strong, not pitiful.nnSo, how do you play it cool? One of the most important ways is to give them some space and time away from you. Emotions are high right after a breakup and it's hard for either you or your ex to think clearly. Allowing them some space will let you both calm down a bit and they may begin to miss you and reminisce about the good times you had together. Much better than being in their face (or voice-mail) constantly. People are drawn to what makes them happy or brings them pleasure. They draw away from what causes them pain or discomfort. Learn how to make yourself attractive and desirable (not just physically), and you can take a big step towards making your ex want you back.