New Jersey Pastor Calls Some Facebook Users Cheaters

A pastor in New Jersey, Reverend Cedric Miller, ordered his followers to delete their accounts at Facebook, since he felt that the beliefs expressed on the site have caused too many people to stray from their marriages. If you've reignited an old flame through Facebook, it may be difficult for you to keep them in your past.

Rev. Miller, ironically, accused Facebook of aiding adultery, and he has been having his own affair. A donation given by Facebook may not be enough to quell the negative murmuring. Rev. Miller is the pastor of Living World Christian Fellowship, and the ultimatum was issued to about fifty married officials in the church, to delete their Facebook accounts, or resign their post.

Miller stated that twenty couples at his church have come to him for counseling regarding infidelity issues because the wife or husband had reignited with an old flame on Facebook. Some others, he said, had used the site as one would a singles bar, to pick up women and men.

Rev. Miller has been in extended counseling sessions in the past eighteen months with couples who have developed marital problems due to finding old lovers on Facebook. He states that it's too tempting, finding someone from your past and then having that lead to conversations and eventual physical meetings.

The New Jersey pastor preached about the subject to his flock, but he does concede that while his ministers, deacons and associate pastors must obey his orders, the congregation is not under the same rules. He cannot tell the congregants what to do, but he wants them to be aware of what he believes are the problems associated with Facebook meetings, online and in person.

Miller had also asked church members who are married to share their passwords with their spouse, but it didn't seem like many couples followed that advice. He understands that his actions appear to be controlling in nature, even though he doesn't conce
himself with appearances. Ironically, even as he said he was trying to save marriages and families, he himself was allegedly having an affair. The pastor did have a Facebook account, but he said he was going to deactivate it.

There are plenty of “old flames” who meet on Facebook and do not re-ignite their old relationships, for want of a better term. If someone wants to meet a person from his or her past, that can actually be done often through Google or a People Search engine. On the whole, Facebook brings into contact people who enjoy talking online with old flames, but they don't often break off their marriages to re-enter an old relationship.