Are you too tired… too stressed …too everything?

Are you filipendulous (hanging by a thread)?

Do you frequently want to curl into a fetal position from overwhelm?

Welcome to 2015, where the pace will be quicker. Y-e-s, quicker, so, hold on, lovies. Here are a few tips to help you through the quickening:


Think metaphoric surfboarder here….bend your knees, breathe, relax, and enjoy the ride. You might want to remember this mantra: “LET IT IN. LET IT BE. LET IT GO.” The more flexibility you have, the easier it is to handle the incoming without taking serious body blows.


We don’t want our lives to whiz right by us. We want our moments to be meaningful, experiential, and life-giving. We don’t want our monkey-minds to send us off on mental (and, often, concomitant emotional) road trips.

Mindfulness keeps us in the present moment -- the now, where our life is happening. Mindfulness helps us entrain our minds and focus. We become more aware and have less robotic behaviors … like unwittingly finishing the bag of popcorn that we were eating on auto-pilot.

Given we are all walking a path of consciousness, don’t we want to be mindful, awake, and aware?


We are living, breathing co-creators and needed here, at this moment in history, now. It is not the time to stop our creative endeavors and the small, large, and individual ways in which we put on our handprint on the world.
Here’s a great example:

Anne Porter (1911-2011) kept writing poetry in her 80’s and 90’s. She said, "You can't sing anymore, you can't dance anymore, you can't drive anymore -- but you can still write.” Mrs. Porter’s first volume of poetry, published when she was 83, was named a National Book Award finalist and she was included—along with T.S. Eliot, Walt Whitman, Emily Dickinson, and Robert Frost – in the Oxford Book of American Poetry.

For Mrs. Porter, aging included using a walker, wearing glasses, and a fair share of senior moments; one of which was the discovery of a ticket in her purse that said, “Keep This Ticket.” Mrs. Porter had no clue about the ticket, but it did inspire the following poem:

Keep This Ticket

I keep it carefully
Because I'm old
Which means
I'll soon be leaving
For another country
Where possibly
Some blinding-bright
Enormous angel
Will stop me
At the border
And ask
To see my ticket.


Elie Wiesel said, “Whoever survives a Test must tell the story! That is his duty!”

Rooted in indigenous wisdom and practices, the power of telling our stories is one of the best things about our human experience. We are not alone and we can learn from one another what it means to survive, conquer, cope, overcome, deal with, walk through, and change.

The medicine pouch in Native American tradition is filled with an individual’s symbols of having claimed their power over the physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual life-and-death challenges we all face as we walk the Beauty Path.

Sharing your test is good medicine.


We are an ecosystem unto ourselves with mind, body, and spirit connections. The more loving we are to ourselves by self-talk, habits, and awareness, the stronger we feel. You know how to do it…you have done it for others, this time do it for you.

Jungian analyst and cantadora, Clarissa Pinkola Estes says, “Nurture is like psychic Wheaties.” I like that. So, let’s take the time to regularly nurture and care for ourselves as we would a loved one.

We need to practice radical self-care because our energies are being upgraded; our experiences are more complicated and complex; and we need all the juice we can garner to be our best selves.


Can you trust yourself? Your intuition? Your relationship with whatever face or name you give Spirit? What stands in your way of trusting? Are you able to let go of complete control and trust?

You can’t go very far in an ever-changing, quickening world if you are unable to trust. Trust requires discernment and faith.

What to do?
• Repair the wounds of your personal history.
• Keep your word to yourself and others.
• Identify who you can trust in your life to help you stay safe and sane.
• Trust others to walk their own path without your supervision, i.e. don’t step into their karma.
• Surrender into your relationship with the divine.


Remember the cartoons of spinach-eating Popeye the sailor-man? Popeye had a saying, “I am what I am.” This is excellent advice for us to accept our own unique selves.

In other words, be your authentic self in all of your multidimensionality. There is no need to be shy or hiding your light under the basket. Now, more than ever, it is essential to whip off your shell and show your Wonder Woman and Super Man self. The world needs exactly what you have to offer.


We, humans are social beings. Social science teaches us that substantive social connections impact the quality of our lives as well as our happiness and stress levels. We need each other. We all need to feel connected and know that there are those special someone’s who have our backs, will tell us the truth, who know our history and love us anyway.

It is important during these fast-moving times to know you have a circle of support. Take time to create, acknowledge, and value the family of your heart, your trusted friends, your personal advisory board, and your own kitchen cabinet.


It is time to share our light, to open up our energy fields, to unfold into our own magnificence, and to help our planet evolve.

This from the ever-wonderful Sue Monk Kidd from her book, When The Heart Waits: Spiritual Direction for Life’s Sacred Questions says it all:

When my daughter was small she got the dubious part of the Bethlehem star in a Christmas play.

After her first rehearsal she burst through the door with her costume, a five-pointed star lined in shiny gold tinsel designed to drape over her like a sandwich board.

“What exactly will you be doing in the play?” I asked her.
“I just stand there and shine,” she said.

In other words, it is time for us to polish our souls and sparkle, sparkle, sparkle.

Author's Bio: 

Adele Ryan McDowell, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist with 30+ years’ experience. Dr. McDowell’s work focuses on helping clients find hope, balance, and peace in the face of crisis, trauma, abuse, and grief. She has worked with suicide, domestic violence, and sexual assault crisis hotlines, survivors of Hurricane Katrina, 9/11, the Joplin Tornado, and the Newtown shooting; clients struggling with addiction as well as those moving through profound life changes such as grief and health challenges.
Dr. McDowell is the author of Balancing Act: Reflections, Meditations, and Coping Strategies for Today’s Fast-Paced Whirl. The suicide of a fellow psychologist led to the creation of her second book, Making Peace with Suicide: A Book of Hope, Understanding, and Comfort.
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