How can a man best use his tongue to bring a woman to orgasm? What are some techniques he can try?

Our fingers are hard, dry, and possibly chafing. On the other hand, your tongue is warm and moist, hence probably superior to the penis in giving her an orgasm. Also it is easier for most women to achieve clitoral rather than vaginal orgasms, and oral sex is very effective in triggering such orgasms.

Start slowly — many women like it when their partner takes his time and appreciates her body. Try dragging your tongue from her belly down to her vagina, letting your tongue brush against her labia, then gently sucking the tip just inside the vagina. You can also lick her vagina from the vaginal opening all the way to her clitoris. The best trigger for most women is the clitoris. It’s the small rub of flesh outside and to the front of the vagina.

Move your tongue from her inner lips to her outer labia. Suck her lips into your mouth and run your tongue over them. Be sure to give the other side the same amount of attention. Vary the pressure and speed of your licks to help maximize the pleasure.

Suck her clitoris into your mouth as her pleasure becomes more intense, continually sucking and flicking it with your tongue. Start out slow and work up to your speed. Enjoy her tastes and smells, get to know every part of her vulva. While you’re going, you can also try massaging her nipples and see if she likes it. The double stimulation and consistent pressure on her clitoris might just push her over the edge to pure ecstasy.

Author's Bio: 

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit or email