Parents say they just don’t behave!

Parents truly are their children’s primary and finest teachers. When it comes to dealing with children’s behavior, sometimes the job seems larger than we would like it to be. Every day our kids can behave in ways that frustrate, humiliate, and amaze us. Some of the behaviors they show are just related to being a child. Other behaviors, however, are related to our lifestyle and responses to them.
Some parents are really perplexed about what kind of behavior is cute, what is normal, and what is wrong. Parents may spend a lot of time explaining, dealing, and influencing their child to understand why to behave, in the end missing a scope to teach the desired behaviour. Some parents, even if they want to do something about misbehavior, don’t know what to do, or are averse to annoy or disappoint a child. Parents need to identify what, when, and how to teach children the abilities they want them to have. Children can learn to behave and it is our duty to teach them these abilities.
Think Ahead
How do you want your child to behave when he is 10, 14, or even 18? That needs to be taught now, when your child is growing up.Whatever you want your children to learn cannot be done without implementing some teaching techniques and helpful relationships to complete them. The basic manners, which all children need to build up in order to be successful in the world outside of their family setting have to be learnt by them. It is not very helpful to let children too much suppleness at home and then expect good behavior when they are away from home.
Other preferred behaviors may consist of things like getting homework done and coming home on time, taking care of things, and being responsible . These things won’t just happen on their own. We can have an belief and then have a big breach between the expectation and the child’s ability to live up to it. Sometimes that breach is the missing teaching and learning that needs to occur. luckily, there are some effective ways to teach and help your child’s learning about behavior.
It might be nice for you to make a list of the behaviours you would like your child to have when he is ready to attend college. Make a long list first, and then try to cut it down to 10 or 12 of the most important things. You can start to teach and give practice for those behaviours and features now when your child is young.

The Four E’s of Parenting suggested by montessori teacher training institutes at mumbai– Example, Education: Explicit and Implicit, Experience, Encouragement
The Four E’s of parenting give a real way for you to think about helping your child achieve desired learning and correct behavior. You are the main player. in its place just wishing your child would behave, you are responsible for the teaching, training, and follow-up.
The Four E’s sometimes get mixed up, but that is okay, as this gives back up for your child’s learning. For example, you will soon see that when you reply kindly and patiently to a child’s odd request for popcorn for dinner, you are setting a good example . You may also be teaching something about nutrition . Or, if you decide that popcorns are a good option, you are showing how to be flexible, fun, and mutual. Life is like that. It more important how you do something, than what you do.
Example:
Of course, example is the most potent educator in the world. Your authority on your child cannot be measured. You have the capacity to set the pitch for the day, to listen patiently, to be compassionate, and to organize your home in loving and fun ways. This power is yours! If you use it intelligently, you will make the most impression possible on your child.
Education:
We can consciously teach kids things we want them to know. We can teach them skills for living, manners , and we can teach them decision making. The two kinds of education that we usually use are explicit and implicit. Explicit teaching occurs when we think in ahead about something that we want to teach our child, and then set up a learning experience. Implicit teaching occurs when we read books on children and talk casually about things in life. Implicit teaching also happens as our children watch our every move and imbibe what we teach with our lives.
Experience:
In order to become expert at anything, we need chances to experience the course and practice the skill. Growing up is a time for getting experience in life. Children have not yet learnt all of the behaviors and skills that we sometimes expect from them. When misbehavior happens, we may look at it as an chance to provide more practice (experience), education, and hold up for the preferred learning.
Encouragement:
Your child, like all children, will do better when he feels good about himself and his relationship with you, not in a permissive way, but in a loving and helpful way. We can promote our children to try, try again, keep trying, and find different ways to try. Relationships are the best drive for proper behavior. concentrating on the child and the relationship is a lot better way to improve behavior than is concentrating on the behavior itself.
Putting It Into Practice:
You can put the Four E’s into practice for any skill or behavior that you want your child to develop. Remember the steps: example, education, experience, and encouragement. First think what it is you want your child to learn. Look at yourself as an example. Does your behavior need some tweaking and finishing before you expect better of your child? Be honest and willing to grow. Criticism is really a discouragement strategy whether we use it on our children or on ourselves. Just decide what you want to do better, and start doing.
Now consider some ways that you can really teach the idea or skill to your child. Is there a game you could play? Is it something done everyday in your home, and you just need to allow your child to get involved with some pointers and some practice? Dusting is one such skill. Other household chores are also easily taught in a fun and cooperative way.
Think about how and when your child will practice this new knowledge and turn it into learning. We haven’t really learned something until we use it! Get ready to encourage, support, laugh, and guide. Keeping our long-term goals in mind will help us relax and enjoy the process.
How to Make a Bed, and Other Important Life Skills recommended by teacher training course :
Let’s try a simple skill from start to enjoyment as an introduction to this new method. Let’s say I want to teach my child to make his bed each day. He is three years old, so my expectation of the way the bed might look will be influenced by this and will be appropriately adjusted. But, I keep in mind that what I really want is a 10-year-old who has mastered this skill and habit. And more than that, I want my children to grow up and take care of themselves. My long-term goals will keep me going. That is what parenting is about.