Personal Responsibility...Now That Hurts!

Taking Personal responsibility for your life may may sound rather simplistic and obvious, but very few people delve deep into its true meaning. It is was what caused me to have my "aha" moment. It was the catalyst for my rebirth, and my awakening that created the idea for my book and brand, Showing Up.

I realized I had to take full responsibility for my life. But then, as I got deeper into the true meaning of self responsibility, I felt a rush of freedom all over me. Let’s take a closer look and I’ll explain what I mean. Oh and I’ll warn you right now, your ego is not going to like it! It may hurt a little.
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Everything that you are experiencing whether it is good or bad is a result of your own thinking. It is true. You are fully responsible for every aspect of it. Yes even all the struggle, pain and lack that you may be experiencing. Your ego, may be feeling a bit of a hit as you hear this. That's normal. The ego wants to blame circumstances and challenges on external sources outside of itself. No one wants to think that they acted against their own happiness. However, subconsciously you are getting something out of the struggle and challenges. It’s true! You are getting satisfaction on some level. Your dramas are what you actually prefer over your dream life.

Sounds crazy doesn't it? Your victim self, complainer self, drama self, lack self, and gossip self are all getting fed by your circumstances. If you change, there will not be any use for those lower selves. You may have not had a lot of experience with your empowered aspects of your self so it does not have a strong foot hold in your subconscious mind. They are no match for your default feelings and thoughts.

The lower selves and your external world reflect a familiar territory, a comfort zone of what you know. The ego sees this as your truth, your reality. This is why we fight for our limitations, and why we blame others for our lot in life.

I looked at the reality of my life and realized that I could continue to rail against those that have wronged me, blame the Universe for bringing the pain into my life, and play the role of a victim. I must admit I got pretty good at all the above. Understanding that I created all of this pain was very difficult at first to accept. However, the deeper I went the more I understood that I do not have to continue to have my life dictated by these lower default emotions. I had to let go of the story about blaming my parents for my childhood, or blaming my out comes on the Universe. If I was to change my world in any way, I would have to take full responsibility for it, own every aspect of it and admit that I created all of it.

When you get to this place, you begin to drop the victim label and playing a passive role in the outcomes of your life. No one controls you any more, you and only you are the director in the movie of your life. You bring all the actors and stage hands together for every act and role they play. You are the creative director for every scene and location. You are the producer for the final product for the world to see.

Once you truly get that, I mean at the very core of who you are, past the ego and all your lower selves that may be in resistance - Self Responsibility will set you free!