There is a fundamental law that is present throughout all of our existence. The law is: “The world responds to ‘deserve’ not ‘need’”. We see the evidence of this law every day. This law is responsible for food on our table, money in our bank account, friends in our circle and much more than I can think of right this second.

This law has a hand in pretty much everything we experience every day. And although some people have a grasp of it, I think there would be more people who would think differently.

I think it’s fair that I explain this law to you so that you can make your own decision, so you can create your own beliefs around this.

We are all familiar with the saying, “You reap what you sow” - this phrase has to do with consequences. But it’s so much more than that. These five words are saying so much more. These five words are at the heart of what I am talking about.

The world responds to ‘deserve’ NOT ‘need’!

Let’s have a look at a very simple example of this. You have a bare patch of soil, if you want that soil to give you something then you must first plant the seed of that particular something. But then that’s not the end of it. You are then required to take care of the soil so that whatever you plant will have a chance to grow and bear fruit.

You must plant the seed in the right place for the right amount of sunshine to fall on the plant. You must give it the appropriate access to water, and you must take care of any weeds that threaten the area. After the right amount of time, care, nutrients and attention, you will eventually bare the fruit from the soil.

It’s pretty simple, and it’s a concept that I think we all understand.

Let’s say you wanted tomatoes but didn’t plant the seed in the first place, what would the soil give you? The soil would give you what you deserve – weeds.

Going to the soil and telling it that you really need to reap gives you exactly what you give to it. The soil will say to you, “Don’t bring me your need – bring me some seed!” For you to reap something, you must first plant something.

So what’s this got to do with you and where you’re at today and where you’re going tomorrow? In a word – everything.

Everything we did yesterday was the seed for today’s fruit, and everything that we do today is the seed for tomorrow’s fruit. That means that everything that you’re experiencing today, your choices have led you to this moment – to these experiences.

This also means that everything that you experience tomorrow and beyond is a seed that is planted from what you have done, or not done, today.

It’s easier to look outside ourselves and blame others – to blame circumstances that we perceive are out of our control and point the finger, to say, “It’s not my fault, I didn’t cause this! I’m the victim here!”

It’s easy to say that, but let’s look at it from a seed-planting perspective. What is the seed that is planted by these statements? There are two obvious seeds that I can see straight off the bat. One is the seed of claiming to be the victim; another is the seed of placing blame elsewhere.

Remember too, that these statements and the situation itself are also the fruit of yesterday’s planting. So through our actions or inactions this situation has come to pass. Actions that we took or didn’t take led to today’s bad experience.

Every second of every day with every experience we are planting seeds for tomorrow and reaping the harvest of what we planted yesterday. Knowing this can put you in a very powerful place. If you truly understand this, you can create powerful change in your life.

We’ve all heard the stories of people who won tattslotto, and then a short time later were worse off than before they got the money. How does this relate to sowing and reaping? Quite simply really.

They have planted the seed of instant wealth, but they have not weeded out their garden of all the bad financial habits they have collected along the way. They have not planted seeds of good financial habits – habits around budgeting, investing and saving.

So when the seed of instant wealth bears fruit, there’s still a garden full of weeds and bugs that are controlling the environment. These weeds and bugs stifle and attack the plant and soon take control of the space that was intended for the plant. Any fruit that is produced is eaten by the bugs and soon the weeds of yesterday’s bad habits leave nothing left, except more weeds. These are the weeds of greater debt, pain, regret and blame.

They blame the money for their unhappiness; they blame anything they can, except themselves. “It’s not our fault! We’re the victims!”

So how could this example be different? How could these people have a different experience where the money does not end up being blamed for something that it didn’t do?

They could instead weed out their bad habits of poor spending decisions and no savings. Planting the seed of long term growth rather than short term, non-fruitful desires. If they planted the idea and practiced valuing every dollar rather than having an attitude of enjoying it while it lasts, then the money would actually last. The money wouldn’t end up being an experience that they regret, but one that they can be thankful for.

How many times have we heard (or even said), “If I won the lottery I wouldn’t work another day in my life!” That sounds like the weeds talking! That doesn’t sound sustainable at all. Even if it’s more money than you could spend in a lifetime, the seed that is planted is one of selfishness. It is not a seed that will bare fruit, but a weed that will just take up space.

The world responds to “Deserve” NOT “Need”!

How good do you feel when you’ve worked like crazy to achieve something? You’ve set your sights on your goal and have been relentless in your pursuit of it. Nothing was going to stop you, and nothing else mattered. When you achieve that goal, the rewards are very sweet. You have made decisions based on growth, discipline and the future.

You have planted seeds and maintained your garden where it is even a pleasure and inspiration for others to see. People marvel at what you’ve created and are inspired by what you’ve done and how you’ve done it. People even model you and ask for tips.

The fruit that you have reaped is more than what you need and you are happy to share it around. You DESERVE this! And those that have supported you as you put the time and effort in to your project often receive the fruit of love – their love and support is the seed they planted. Your success and happiness is also their fruit.

Now, the best gardens aren’t those that just plant the seeds and pull out weeds. The really fruitful gardens are those that use fertiliser. It’s fair to say that you can grow a garden without fertilising it, the soil has natural nutrients in it that will grow your plant. But when you add the appropriate fertiliser to the surrounding area, your garden will thank you for it. The growth and health of your garden will be magnified. Even the yield of fruit will increase.

Reading books, listening to CD’s or watching videos to increase your knowledge and expertise through listening to experts. This will fertilise your knowledge. Your learning curve will be reduced and the results that you seek will be easier and more fruitful. The knowledge that you get from others combined with the ideas that you generate through you own experiences will magnify the fruit that you produce.

A lot of healthy gardens also control unwanted insects and bugs. The unwanted bugs for you is negative input from yourself and others. Negative input and self-talk will slowly eat away at you and what you’re trying to achieve. You’ll still be able to grow roses, but they may have spots here and there, or the leaves may be eaten away.
Eventually, if not taken care of the bugs will take over – the negative talk will stop the fruit from bearing.

The negative talk from others or maybe yourself can also be helped by advice from others who have done the task before you, educating yourself and arming yourself with the right tools and knowledge for the job.

So the questions for you are as follows:
• How well have you prepared your garden?
• What seeds are you planting in your garden?
• Are you happy with today’s fruit?
• What changes can you make that will give you better fruit tomorrow and the next day?
• What bad habits can you weed out?
• What fertiliser are you using in your garden for better growth?
• How much variety is in your garden?

Treat your life like a garden. Plant what you wish to have in your life and weed out what is not bearing the fruit you desire. Take constant care of your garden, because with regular care the maintenance is low. But when you neglect your garden, the weeds will eventually come up. And when the weeds come up, you’ll be looking to blame someone.

Be responsible for your garden and the fruit you bear will be more than you need, but it will be what you deserve.

Author's Bio: 

Youarn Bell is a coach and trainer based in Australia with a growing reputation for helping people from all walks of life to push past their perceived limits and drastically improve their life rapidly. Click Here for more information.