Why Are You Still Here?

Do you ever find yourself in a particular situation that you want to get out of, but no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to leave? You might hate your job, get no joy out of your relationship, or even want to get out of spending time with someone that you don’t really care for. You know that you want out, but you keep finding yourself asking “If I don’t like this situation, why am I still here”?

The answer to why you are there is a simple one, as is the action that you need to take in order to finally break free!

The answer is FEAR. Maybe not in the “I’m afraid for my life” variety, but more the fear that if you take whatever action is necessary to change that you won’t have what it takes to “make it on the outside”.

If you don’t like your job, you might be staying there because you are afraid to lose the security provided by your salary or your benefits package. You also might not have enough confidence in yourself to find a better job, or to work towards a better position with your present company.

If you are in a relationship that you want to get out of, perhaps you hesitate because you don’t want to hurt the other person, or there may be children involved, or, you simply don’t believe that you can find someone better because your self-esteem is not where it should be.

If your circle of friends includes people that you don’t really care to spend time with, you may be staying in that circle because you don’t want to cause trouble by speaking your mind. Perhaps you think that your friends aren’t that great, but it is easier to stick with them than to find other friends that you truly want to spend time with.

Each of the examples above are only possible scenarios, but the thought process is basically the same in each one. You stay in a situation that you don’t like, or you do things that you don’t want to do, because you are afraid of what might happen if you take steps to change.

Furthermore, even if you get past the “fear” threshold, you are then faced with actually having to Take Action, which is probably going to make your life at least temporarily more difficult.

After all, being single again after a long relationship can be hard work. Going to the gym frequently when you have decided to lose weight will certainly entail effort. Finding new friends if you shed some old ones can certainly be a daunting task. Landing a new job or a significant promotion will definitely cause you to have to work harder.

As you can see, creating positive change in your life can be frightening, and it usually also entails work and effort on your behalf. Compared to “staying where you are”, making positive change seems like the hard road! Why even bother? Wouldn’t it be easier to just take life as it comes and not have to face those fears, or put forth such an effort?

What you need to ask yourself at this point is how bad do you want to change? Do you really want to get out of that job? Do you seriously want to lose weight, or clean up your health? Are you honestly prepared to get out of that dead-end relationship?

In the classic book ‘Think and Grow Rich’ the author, Napoleon Hill, starts out by talking about Desire. The concept of desire is put first in the book for a very real reason. In fact, if you truly grasp that reason, then your entire point of view and the momentum in your life can change instantly.

You see, desire is the key to everything that anyone has ever done – or will ever do. Sometimes it is a desire to have, do, or be something, while other times it is a desire to keep something unpleasant from happening. However, in either case, if there is no desire, there is no motivation to start. There is nothing to put your back against when the going gets tough unless you truly desire the outcome that you are working towards. Without desire there is no creative spark that you can use to fan the flames of the creative process that will show you how to bring your desire into existence.

Your desire – if it is strong enough – will overcome your fears. Your burning desire to have what you want will power your body and your mind when you have to take the necessary steps to get what you want. Your unfailing ability to see what you want – and know that you are going to get it – will allow you to overcome every obstacle in your path, no matter how big or how overwhelming it is.

Why are you still here? You are still here because you don’t truly WANT to leave. If you did, then you would find a way to make it happen!

Now that you understand that desire is the key to your success, the question now becomes, “What are you going to do about it”?