Are you someone who doesn’t know how to express (attract) themself?

Are you someone who is afraid to talk whom you like?

The attraction is a way to express your affection towards the opposite. There are many proven tips & tricks to attract the opposite gender but here we discussed the sustainable one which resists for the long term.

Expressing and impressing is a common social practices many of us do. Impressing doesn’t mean by your looks or physique. It may be your achievement, work, skills.

I think Bollywood and Hollywood make the unintentional ideas that, having good looks is more important than other traits but it doesn’t.

Hold your breath and we are going to discuss many proven ideas and tips to attract anyone while improving yourself.

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Manifest Value

This is the main reason for an internal attraction or cognitive attraction( the sense). Each person has a specific number that defines their values. Where values define the things you offer or contribute to others’ lives.

Manifest Value = Wealth + Popularity + Network + looks + Knowledge + skills.

The values correlate wealth, popularity, network, skills, looks, knowledge. Our mind automatically analyzes those values in the form of affection. The high the number you have the more attractive you are.

Looks are important to decide manifest value but it is not a primary reason.

The best two traits that scream high value more than any other trait are Social and Confidence Level.

Being attractive is decided by your overall manifest value.
Social attract:

When you are surrounded by many people, another person thinks he/she has some extra features which make him/her awesome and likable.

You show others you are more liked by lots of people. Befriend everyone with good intentions. It reflects positivity.

Confident body language gives off the aura of extremely high value and personality.

Slowing the movements and taking space (Open Body Language) give you confidence. It is a biological instinct to close up the body when under threat.

For confidence, you don’t need to be the CEO of a company or head of a gang. Just try to mimic the body language and built it to confidence.

It is ironic that many Billionaires have decent looks but they have very high manifest value because of personality and confidence, so to the conclusion looks doesn’t matter as your skills.
Exhibit Desire:

What happens when you are into someone and they ignore you. You become offended and lose confidence.

You need to show that you are interested in them. Have good eye contact, open body posture makes others comfortable and feels they are important to someone.

If you are good at feeling someone important, unintentionally you fulfill the human’s ego of getting attention and your relationship becomes strong.

Tell him/her that you find him/her attractive. Compliment him/her with their traits, it should be genuine.

Our touch sense act as more powerful than others. Touching is a more powerful form of communication than words. Always show desire in a person. Express your feeling with the right intention of touch. Use hand to talk with open space.

Non-Neediness is something that you don’t need to do. Prioritizing another person’s perceptions over your perception and this prioritization leads to all unattractive behavior in men, whether directly or indirectly.

Unintentionally you hurt your ego by compressing your opinion. It may be someone don’t like your views, in that situation express your views with real-life examples.

Express yourself, who you are. Don’t be shy. The relationship considered to be poison where a person can’t appreciate other views.

Always expect something from others is the main aspect of Neediness. Please don’t have high expectations from anyone at any point in time in life.

Having high expectations makes an unusual imagination and after not fulfilling it leads to sadness and depression.
Abundance mindset:

Befriend with many people. A friend is someone who helps you to improve and support you in your lifelong journey. A friend is someone who brings a smile on our faces.

An abundance mindset refers to have many options. Now if a teenager or adult goes through a breakup lead to depression and sadness. To overcome that situation you need someone to talk and express views.

Knowing that you have multiple options available. Don’t talk to only one girl or boy because you act like needy. All your expectations are concentrated on one person that is not best for any healthy relationship.

There are billion of people on the planet and if you treat her like she’s the only one, it shows how desperate you are. So be humble.
Body language to attract:

We have already discussed the body language of men here. Se lets continue with female body action to know if she is into you or not.

Female tries to make herself look more attractive and to capture your attention. They try to dress differently to be noticeable.

Hair-tossing, flipping, and playing with hair is very common because of how easily it attracts the attention of others even from far away.

Fixing clothing- Used herself looks more appealing by revealing more of her legs, arms, chest. Be careful it may be intentionally or unintentionally.

Fixing posture: Sticking out chest to look more sexually attractive.

Playing with objects: straws, drinks, meant to be sexually attractive. Commonly seen in sexually charges environment like a club or in parties.

Arms not crossed, Leaning towards others mate, Torso, and chest open result to best body language practice for both males and females.

The connection between two people. If a girl likes you, she wants to build a connection with you. She tries to talk and build a healthy link.

Eye contact: The easiest way to build rapport with someone is through eye contact. Use the 80/20 rule. Most of the time looking into their eyes and sometimes just blink and rover your eyes somewhere.

The best way to get a girl interested in you or not is to Looks for a repeated glance. First glance might be by accident. So glance back and see if she glances at you again to confirm. Jackpot man,she is interested in you.

Seeking eye contact in groups: when something emotionally charged is said(Funny, sad) People tend to look at those that they like the most.

Rapport is very important to attract women by male perception.
Sign of nervousness:

Especially common in younger girls. When they are speaking to someone they are attracted to. Look at for- stuttering, fidgeting, unable to hold eye contact, nail-biting, blushing is a common observation.
Proximity sign:

Girls who are interested in you will do anything they can to be near you.who wouldn’t want to be near someone they liked.

She tries to indulge in short conversations or need help in homework. I that situation don’t hesitate to talk. Just go for it.

She tries Excuse to the hangout-any suggestion that you get her near you.studying together, shopping, going to a party
Re-initiating conversation:

Most conversations naturally meet a dead end. If she continues the conversation it means she enjoys the company.
Physical Proximity:

Girls who are interested in you will gravitate towards where you are, in hopes that you will interact with the -club, parties others social gatherings.

Pretend helplessness: She will pretend that she needs help with something. although she doesn’t.
Compliance sign:

when a girl agrees to do what you suggest. Shes agree with your ideas, your humor, your frame.
Laughter: Halo effect

When you like someone your opinion about them and their attributes are enhanced dramatically. Your corny jokes become hilarious.

A study found that women don’t like funny men, they just think men they like are funny. A subtle but important difference. Halo effect is the answer to how to attract a woman.

Yes factor: this is when a girl says yes to your suggestion. Whatever it be when you ask her to go to the party. Or if you suggest she go-to for dinner.
Kino Escalation touch(Physical Contact for attract)-

Touching is the most powerful way to flirt. She’s touching you because she’s into you. You don’t touch someone you’re not comfortable with.

3 level of touch:

Least intimate-friend level

For friends, family, and the people you met hugs, shoulder taps, handshakes are the common ones.

Flirty Level: For people that you find attractive. Legs touching, touching arms, waist touching,

Sexually level: kissing another physical activity.

As instrument must be tuned before they can play. The reason’s why you are single is you lack social skills.

Your ability to meet new people, make a positive impact on their lives and befriend them.

Two books you must read for improving social skills:

How to Win Friends and Influence People: Teaches how to become likable and how to make friends.

What Every Body is Saying : Teaches how to intercept body language written by FBI agent.

The practice is the key to get social skills. Talk to people and indulge in deep conversation makes you confident.

Start talking to 5 complete strangers a day, use easy interaction. Apply the concepts of these two books on each one like eye contact, angle, adjust smile. Keep adjusting until you get positive interaction.

Practice leads to a drop Social anxiety level.

Befriend complete strangers and attempt to hold a deeper conversation with 2 out of 5 strangers you speak with every day. Build rapport and

Talk about something which you both have common.

You have a month to interact with 87 members of the opposite sex that you find attractive.
Don’t chase her, chase a better you.

Having two people chasing each other is way more beautiful than one chasing the other. If a girl doesn’t like you, then change what you can and make yourself a better you. Invest time to improve skills and physique. Your uniqueness makes her regret leaving you.

Basic hygiene and manners. It’s simple to shower, shave, dress nice, and use common manners,. It smells good.

Try to improve dressing sense and occasional dressing.
Have an interesting hobby or passion-

Having one passion to live for yourself and help in being yourself. Your hobby can be anything that you’re passionate about, just make sure it’s a true passion and not faked.

When you are actually passionate about something, your girl will notice. It could be programming, motorcycling, cooking, drawing, reading, playing an instrument, and anything else that suits your fancy, just put the time in and improve those skills.
Ask her to do things for you

Just ask her to do something for you. There is a psychological effect called the Benjamin Franklin which helps to attract the opposite gender. Well, when we do stuff for people, our brain thinks since we do something for someone, we must like them.

Like, ask for things like picking up a pencil, for notes in class, giving someone a paper, and even small errands. Don’t overdo it though or she will feel like you’re using her.
Make her laugh with humor

Girls love laughing and the more you can make them laugh, the higher up in the social chain you will seem.

It proves that you’re intellectually strong and humorous, which is a desirable trait in a future mate. Also, this will give you a chance to see where her eyes are going when she laughs, to tell if she is interested in you.

A great way to tell if a girl likes you or is romantically interested in you is to look where her eyes dart when she laughs. If her eyes dart at you first when she laughs, she probably likes you at a subconscious level.
Tell her secrets

This will open the door for trust and as you tell her things about you so she attract, she will notice that you trust her, which in turn will make her trust you more.

We like the people who trust us first, because we have a natural instinct to be wary of new people and to not trust them.

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