Qabalah and Relationships

The main areas of life that people most often have difficulty with include:

Money / Health / Relationships / Jobs / Work

Sometimes people seek answers on these issues through astrology or tarot readings.

Enjoying and maintaining healthy relationships is something many, at some time or another, in their life have difficulties with.

Why is that? What could be more wonderful than sharing life experiences and interacting with others.

The problem frequently lies in our inability to truly appreciate that we all see things, life etc. through different eyes.

As individuals it is easy to pay lip service and say we realise that we all see things differently, but the reality is, we often like to get our own way and don’t allow for those differences or handle them very well, and through poor communication and misunderstandings, our feelings get hurt.

Part of the challenge of living on Earth is to learn how to manage our lives effectively and that includes getting along with others. We are all part of humanity and emanate from the same source. We come in different shapes and sizes and our outer features differ, but underneath that – we are the same.

We are all trying to lead satisfying and fulfilling lives and ultimately, whether we are consciously aware of it or not, we are all walking in the same direction – back to the source of creation.

So why do we have so many problems getting along with each other?

In life there are those that give and those that take.

In any successful relationship there has to be an equal balance. It doesn’t matter who earns the most money or is more good-looking – it is about everyone contributing, and no-one doing all the giving or all the taking.

Relationships that are one-sided where one person jumps to the tune of the other are not likely to succeed long term without resentments setting in.

This applies in any sort of relationship whether they are intimate or business relationships or friendships.

To bring out the best in others we need to have a good relationship within ourselves, and this is often where it goes wrong. If we don’t love, value and appreciate ourselves and our own needs – how can we expect others to?

Relationships need to be entered into simply for the joy of being with that person. Not to weigh up what we can get out of them; thinking about what the benefits might be rather than just enjoying another's company. To love someone unconditionally - for who they are - is the challenge where relationships are concerned but too many want to hold the upper hand and selfish desires muddy the waters.

If you find it difficult relating to others try to find something within them you can agree on, rather than just focusing on the bits you find challenging.

Concentrating on:
•the differences in others
•trying to hold the upper hand
•selfishly wanting to satisfy our own desires all the time
•feeling unworthy in ourselves of love and friendship

is usually what stops us from enjoying the beauty within relationships.

Gaining victory over our feelings and letting go of the need to hold the upper hand, or use emotional blackmail as a means of holding others close, is what we need to work towards eliminating. Thus the ugliness that hurts and maims not only ourselves but others too, can be transmuted and transformed.

Finally, we each have to be responsible for finding and sustaining our own sense of happiness. To place our happiness onto the shoulders of others can often mean the weight of that responsibility is too much to bear. This is another reason why relationships sometimes fail.

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